A convo on POF yesterday: (warning: large images)
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First and foremost I took her actually sending a response as not a rejection, something like a challenge to "convince" her. Her reply being "whatever" I had already resigned myself to the likelihood of her being a potentially uninteresting conversationalist and/or person in general, so I returned the dismissiveness with the "groovy" and my follow-up. I'm 99% sure her saying "get a hotel" was a shit test, but I feel there was no good response to that; if I say "yes" I come off as desperate, and if I say "no" outright then she gives some excuse about me not being truthful or some nonsense like that. I feel that being concerned about her flaking is a legitimate concern.
Two questions: Is the above analysis anywhere close to accurate, or is it simply me over-analyzing it? Was there something at all useful I could have responded with re "get a hotel" or was this doomed from the start?
Also, I did not censor her username as I feel any New Yorkers here looking for women on POF should be aware that this user is gonna test.
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First and foremost I took her actually sending a response as not a rejection, something like a challenge to "convince" her. Her reply being "whatever" I had already resigned myself to the likelihood of her being a potentially uninteresting conversationalist and/or person in general, so I returned the dismissiveness with the "groovy" and my follow-up. I'm 99% sure her saying "get a hotel" was a shit test, but I feel there was no good response to that; if I say "yes" I come off as desperate, and if I say "no" outright then she gives some excuse about me not being truthful or some nonsense like that. I feel that being concerned about her flaking is a legitimate concern.
Two questions: Is the above analysis anywhere close to accurate, or is it simply me over-analyzing it? Was there something at all useful I could have responded with re "get a hotel" or was this doomed from the start?
Also, I did not censor her username as I feel any New Yorkers here looking for women on POF should be aware that this user is gonna test.
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