Thank you, thank you Shannon, Benjamin and Greenduck. I appreciate your input! It was a major struggle. I did not want to believe it was resistance. But something happened that made me set on continuing with EPHRA.
First, my commitment. Since I have not "properly" used EPHRA, missing some days and only doing up to 4 hours, I decided that I shall follow the instructions of 8 hours daily starting today. I shall do a one month block (32 days). Thereafter, I will consider others, like TLAM. Actually I also have DFNW which I purchased but have not started using. Reading MLS journals are also inching me to do MLS...
Yesterday was a great day, I was happy, but a negative comment from someone important and my day was shattered. I meant well, said and did things out of consideration, no appreciation and where did this ungrateful word come from?? I was seething inside. For many hours I boiled quietly. I asked myself, why do I want to put myself through this torture? I mean, getting angry is just hurting myself. I thought of getting back at the person, I thought through many options in order to one-up the person and take revenge. All of these just cause relationships between people to spiral downwards. In the end, I considered from the other perspective and spoke nicely instead. I kept my tact and good attitude in spite of the other's angry demeanor and barrier to communicate. In just a short while into the conversation, the barrier broke and the anger dissolved. And we resolved a LOT of problems at one fell swoop.
I was surprised at how calm I was, how good of an attitude I have, in what was a direct confrontation. In the past, seeing that the other person is angry, I would be reminded that I have every right to get angry too.
I have also started to be more conscious of keeping away from toxic people. These people will never change their ways of thinking nor improve themselves. I will just be better off not near them too much.
Finally, I feel like I've aged. It feels as if this maturity is something to be attained when I'm much older, but I have it now.
First, my commitment. Since I have not "properly" used EPHRA, missing some days and only doing up to 4 hours, I decided that I shall follow the instructions of 8 hours daily starting today. I shall do a one month block (32 days). Thereafter, I will consider others, like TLAM. Actually I also have DFNW which I purchased but have not started using. Reading MLS journals are also inching me to do MLS...
Yesterday was a great day, I was happy, but a negative comment from someone important and my day was shattered. I meant well, said and did things out of consideration, no appreciation and where did this ungrateful word come from?? I was seething inside. For many hours I boiled quietly. I asked myself, why do I want to put myself through this torture? I mean, getting angry is just hurting myself. I thought of getting back at the person, I thought through many options in order to one-up the person and take revenge. All of these just cause relationships between people to spiral downwards. In the end, I considered from the other perspective and spoke nicely instead. I kept my tact and good attitude in spite of the other's angry demeanor and barrier to communicate. In just a short while into the conversation, the barrier broke and the anger dissolved. And we resolved a LOT of problems at one fell swoop.
I was surprised at how calm I was, how good of an attitude I have, in what was a direct confrontation. In the past, seeing that the other person is angry, I would be reminded that I have every right to get angry too.
I have also started to be more conscious of keeping away from toxic people. These people will never change their ways of thinking nor improve themselves. I will just be better off not near them too much.
Finally, I feel like I've aged. It feels as if this maturity is something to be attained when I'm much older, but I have it now.
