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a woman's words just triggered my inferiority complex and my sensitivity by making her situation seem somewhat superior to what I had to face. And it's making my blood BOIL. I am very angry right now. To the point where I wanna engage in a verbal boxing match with her when I see her. I wouldn't let this get to me but the problem is that I really care about her, and people this close to me can really get under my skin because they know me so well and use what they know about me against me.

i need to be cleared of triggers like this. i can't afford to be reacting so emotionally to something so petty. it's MY inferiority complex that needs to be dealt with. MY sensitivity that is getting me into trouble.

typing it all out, however, has calmed me down a bit. hoping v3.0.1a clears it.

Do you think she is "sh*t testing" you to see what you are made of?

I think so.

Women aren't stupid. They know exactly what buttons to push to trigger whatever pain response they want to see. It usually stems from their own insecurities. I think she is testing your "strength," whether you are worthy of having sex with her.

Now the question is: How are you going to respond (if you do), to win this game of hers?

this makes a LOT of sense. she's showing definite signs of increasing attraction, so she's probably ramping up the shit tests. i'd prefer not to engage in this type of shit test, since the lines between friend and potential sex partner is being blurred for her. Thanks for this post WIP. You have a good point with this. Thanks

I don't think there is a "blurred line." With women you are either one or the other. There is no in between.

I think at this point you are ONLY a potential sex partner. Would she "stab" a friend verbally just to see the response? Use information obtained during a vulnerable moment to hurt a true friend? I don't think so. I don't think she views you as a "friend." She is sizing up your ability to earn her sexual favors.

Pardon me for saying this, but I think you should abandon any idea of keeping her as a friend if having sex with her might not/does not work out. This line of thinking on your part will only sabotage you from attaining your goal. Pick either friend or sex partner, and stick to it without wavering.

*as we all know though there is no real friendship between a man and woman, as one or the other always wants something out of it, be it attention, sex, or what have you.

Can you be truly happy just giving her your attention while she is f*cking somebody else?

Truth. Wisdom. Thanks.

a woman's words just triggered my inferiority complex and my sensitivity by making her situation seem somewhat superior to what I had to face. And it's making my blood BOIL. I am very angry right now. To the point where I wanna engage in a verbal boxing match with her when I see her. I wouldn't let this get to me but the problem is that I really care about her, and people this close to me can really get under my skin because they know me so well and use what they know about me against me.

i need to be cleared of triggers like this. i can't afford to be reacting so emotionally to something so petty. it's MY inferiority complex that needs to be dealt with. MY sensitivity that is getting me into trouble.

Hey man, maybe it will be useful for you to know that the bold part may not necessarily be true. I had an ENFP best friend for a long time and your reaction sounds a bit familiar. Of course, I don't know you personally, so I may be wrong here.

If you're anything like the ENFP I knew, then thinking somebody is out to get you is part of the problem. If you're comfortable with what's under your skin, nobody can "get" you. You'd be surprised how few people (if any) care to do that anyway.

I've been framed for doing things like that in the past (including when I lost the friendship, if I may call it that) and if that helps, I could only find the accusations ranging from funny to absurd.

What's under your skin probably isn't vomiting rainbows though.

Hope that helps.

One of the aspects of my communication style is exaggerative and "out of proportion" so i may have made it seem a lot bigger than it really is -- I DO THAT!!!!!

I also left a hole in the story, so let me patch it up now. What I was referring to when people get so close to me that they use it against me.... is that she knows my personality so damn well that she knows exactly what will piss me off -- but she doesn't always do this in shit tests! When i come to her asking for advice, she will say X,Y,Z reason, and then back it up with "Because this is who you are and how you operate", and it will all be true. What makes me ANGRY about it, is that I can't BS myself for very long when friends like this help point out some things about me which are twisted off ways to think.