08-28-2016, 09:16 PM
@LeonidasXVI
Your post is really deep. I've never heard this before in this context. I'd appreciate if you could give some concrete examples of what you've said that's been helpful to make her know that you are validating, understanding, and nonjudgmental of her sexuality beyond her body.
1) “So, my friend, you need to push the buttons that turn her on.“
Could you give some examples of what buttons you've pushed and how you've pushed them?
2) “Create a fantasy in her mind that she cannot resist. (Okay, not create a fantasy in her mind, but trigger it.)”
Could you please give an example of how you have triggered fantasies to the point where she became all yours? Which fantasies? Her relationships fantasies? Sexual fantasies? Fantasies in how men fulfill her fantasies, or fantasies in which she is the one fulfilling her fantasies? Fantasies in which the man is but instrumental in fulfillment and she is the main focus, or fantasies in which the man is the main focus instead of her?
3) “In order to do that, you first need to ACCEPT that her sexuality is beyond her looks.”
That seems easy enough to know that her sexuality is more than her looks. But when you look beyond, are you talking about her personality? Complimenting her on her skills? Tell her an aspect of her personality is sexy to you? Etc.
4) “Second, APPROVE her sexuality, make her trust you on a sexual level. That she'll be okay, that you understand her sexuality, and that you will not judge her. And through this whole process, you VALIDATE her. On a sexual level. Not how society validates her, not how her neighbour or that pervert in the street does. They all appeal to her looks. Not her sexuality.”
What are some ways you've approved of her so she trusts you are nonjudgmental and understand? What are some things you've said that have led to her being all yours? What's the difference between validating her and validating her on a sexual level?
Your post is really deep. I've never heard this before in this context. I'd appreciate if you could give some concrete examples of what you've said that's been helpful to make her know that you are validating, understanding, and nonjudgmental of her sexuality beyond her body.
1) “So, my friend, you need to push the buttons that turn her on.“
Could you give some examples of what buttons you've pushed and how you've pushed them?
2) “Create a fantasy in her mind that she cannot resist. (Okay, not create a fantasy in her mind, but trigger it.)”
Could you please give an example of how you have triggered fantasies to the point where she became all yours? Which fantasies? Her relationships fantasies? Sexual fantasies? Fantasies in how men fulfill her fantasies, or fantasies in which she is the one fulfilling her fantasies? Fantasies in which the man is but instrumental in fulfillment and she is the main focus, or fantasies in which the man is the main focus instead of her?
3) “In order to do that, you first need to ACCEPT that her sexuality is beyond her looks.”
That seems easy enough to know that her sexuality is more than her looks. But when you look beyond, are you talking about her personality? Complimenting her on her skills? Tell her an aspect of her personality is sexy to you? Etc.
4) “Second, APPROVE her sexuality, make her trust you on a sexual level. That she'll be okay, that you understand her sexuality, and that you will not judge her. And through this whole process, you VALIDATE her. On a sexual level. Not how society validates her, not how her neighbour or that pervert in the street does. They all appeal to her looks. Not her sexuality.”
What are some ways you've approved of her so she trusts you are nonjudgmental and understand? What are some things you've said that have led to her being all yours? What's the difference between validating her and validating her on a sexual level?
