I Ain't Happy Unless EVERYBODY'S F*CKIN'!!! -- DMSI v2.3

[K-Train]

Good book to check out about women wanting validation and taking your time:

Alan Roger Currie: The Possibility of Sex.

Weed them out by being very direct. Like you just did.

I wanted to co-sign this book. This book was the catalyst for a lot of my self-development. Alan himself said that many guys who read (or listened) to his book were on the verge of tears because of all the raw truth inside of it. I have to say I was one of them. I remember at the time I was DEEP in the friend zone with one chick that I was attracted to (I don't consider it a friend zone if I'm not attracted to the chick but I digress) and that book helped wake me the f*ck up. I recommend the audible version.

"Friends first, then we'll see where it goes." -- I know exactly where "it'll go." The friendzone. Women do not need an emotional connection to have sex. They're just like men. They'll f*ck you if they're attracted to you. This is an attempt to maximize the number of resources she receives before she'll put out. Except she won't. She'll bang your musclebound neighbor.

That phrase right there really gets under my skin. Probably because I fell for it hook line and sinker . My argument against it is that it is no different from a man telling a woman "let's have sex first, then we'll see where it goes from there..." Both those statements are essentially promising nothing but asking for something. The difference is one is trying to put sex off and the other is asking for it early on.

Obviously "be friends first" is looked upon favorably because its in favor of "courtship" before sex. Here's the thing: if a man sucked in bed and had only an average income/salary would women be a) motivated to remain with him b) still treat that man with love respect c) do both a & b and also not cheat on that guy? There are women out there who truly don't care about sex and truly only want an emotional connection but I would argue a good portion wouldn't stay with that dude. They probably dump his ass, treat him like shit/disrespect him during the relationship or if they stayed with the dude they'd bang another guy on the side.