(04-27-2011, 10:34 AM)Shannon Wrote:(04-27-2011, 09:47 AM)Ryan Wrote:(04-27-2011, 09:33 AM)Shannon Wrote:(04-26-2011, 06:20 PM)mat422 Wrote:(04-26-2011, 08:49 AM)Shannon Wrote: Another thing you can do is this. Casually say, "Hey, I am going to [do XYZ], wanna come with?" This frames your "Let's go out" in such a way that her saying no is meaningless, because you were going regardless. Just food for thought.
I like that. Doing your own thing and letting her tag along. I'll have to try that sometime.
It's awesome. It works. Probably some of the best advice I ever got about dealing with women.
Wasn't that from David D? I love using that... Also the whole, Hey I'm busy Wednesday and Friday but I'll be free Thursday. Or hey next weekend I'm going to the festival downtown, you should tag along.
I honestly don't remember who I got it from. But I always try to remember to "check my calendar". Of course a lot of times, I really do need to check it, since I sometimes am juggling several photoshoots at a time in planning, along with plans to get together with friends and such. But a busy man is a desirable man. I never say "you should tag along", though, as that could be taken as degrading or insulting. I always say it along the lines of "you're welcome to join me if you like."
I like, "You're welcome to join me if you like"... I'd rather use that over "Wanna come with?" because it may give her a reason to say no by asking a direct question. Instead, "You're welcome to join me if you like", puts it into her head that it would be great for her to join but there is no pressure because you don't care whether or not she says yes or no. It just seems more comforting in that regard. And I've read that you should never directly give a woman a simple choice of yes or no... Because that just gives her more chance to say no.
