01-16-2020, 11:34 AM
(01-16-2020, 02:31 AM)Greenduck Wrote: Hello Shannon,
I’ve got a question regarding women I hope you could educate me in, if you don’t mind.
I seem to be attracted to “man eater women” - girls that are much about sex, and not so very emotionally available. It gives me some kind of rush to feel that I got them, and I try to find ways to reach them emotionally as some kind of “damaged healer”. This can be thrilling, but don’t always end well and in my last relationship I kind of lost myself in her view of me. I was a mess. . I actually realize this question about me, and not only women. Why are those women so damn attractive and why can’t I learn? Is it possible to have that kind of woman if you are emotionally healthy, or is it even something you should strive for - or can the same attraction be found in women which are not “man eaters”. I may be lacking some parts of the whole picture, but I’m just a bit confused about this.
Or is it my current “needy perspective” that make me think that independent girls are emotionally distant?
Whatever you experience again and again and again is something you are being offered the chance to learn from. You will continue to have the experience until you learn from it what lesson is being offered to you by it.
You attract or are attracted to these women because they represent what you need to learn. You aren't learning it because you haven't figured that out yet. It's not that you can't learn, it's that you haven't experienced this enough to have worked out what you need to learn yet. The fact that you are asking this question shows that you see a pattern and that you are beginning to learn something from it.
I'm not saying you should act like them, but they are the puzzle piece you need to learn what you need to learn. The key is to identify the cycle or pattern, and then figure out what you need to learn by experiencing this... what would make it stop happening?
Then use that knowledge to break the cycle in the specific way that, to do so, you must have learned the lesson being offered to you. Then it will stop.
"Man eater" can mean many things, so I really can't answer your other questions.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!