Subliminal Talk

give her your number. never ask for a woman's number

Or tell her to give you her number. Or better yet, get her so interested that she gives it to you without asking. Giving her your number is a fail, in most cases, though, Spiral, for the simple reason that most women expect a man to take the lead. Time and again I have seen women waste brilliant opportunities and lose great guys because they were just not willing to act instead of waiting for him to act.

Maybe give her your number, and then say, "But since I know you're never going to call me because women always expect the man to do all the work, you might as well give me yours, too." lol

This is true, Shannon in some ways. I guess giving a woman your number is a 10-20% chance of getting a call if you make a good impression with a great connection. But we've all heard it's a numbers game and it's true. Say you meet a woman every time you go out.. And say you go out 5 times a week to get gas, run errands, go to the mall, or get groceries. You meet a woman each five times.. maybe sometimes a couple of women. You give out your number.. that's 5 new girls a week at least. You are bound to get some calls here and there. Plus women love to chase the right guy.

I personally believe it's best to just give out your number and go about your day. But when you do this.. you have to know how to take things further.. you've made the first move by talking to her and give her your number. Let the women come to you.

And this is how you weed out most of the high quality women as well.

Plus it shows that you aren't needy. I think it's the best way to go personally.

if i were to do anything it would be more like what Shannon said id just hand her my phone and say something along the lines of Shannon's quote. With my twist in it of course

I actually never asked for a girls number, they always gave them to me just in case i wanted to talk to them or continue our conversation. I learned the hard way not to jabber to much in text or on the phone.

Im still learning how to do this so if i don't get a number from one girl i know there is more behind her.

I used to do the Brent Smith thing and get a girls number so I can text her about something social like an event or something that I was going to give her information about, making her think that I would be like every other guy and continue texting her whereas I would only text her about the event and then never text her again or text her with "Hey, it's Adam, here's my number" and leave it at that, fully expecting her to then start texting me, which usually worked out that way. Then when she started texting me out of the blue, I now have free license to say whatever I want which is usually "So I suppose you want to get together." and then tell her to come over to my house. I always tried to keep it short with the text messages and keep it to the point, because I hate talking on the phone and simply refused to do it, but that's just me.

Nowadays, I don't really do that. I usually just say "I guess I'll see you around." After a rally hot interaction(Drives them nuts) They usually say "Do you want my number?" and so I take it and text them mine and forget about it. That's my method, though, because I'm not big on reaching out, but I don't really like pursuing women, so it might not be useful to you if you enjoy that sort of thing, but it always helps to have a different angle to look at things.

i don't really peruse women all that much either. That sounds like a good way as well, ill keep it noted for future prospects.

This one time a girl i went to school with ended up sitting at our table when we were at the bar i used to go to. i was there with a friend from school and i asked him if that was so and so and of course it was. Well he was full of neediness and kept complementing her assets. I would change the subject to other stuff. Well she sat in the chair next to me vs my friend and looks at me and says hey whats your number so we can go hang out some time. Completely ignoring my friend. This was right at the beginning of my affirmation process. i wasn't nearly as confident as i am now but thought it was weird it was my first time from some one that is not a friend.

now that i think about it the girl who cut my hair absolutely opened up to me. I mean age, kids, relationship status, stuff she likes to do and a bunch of other things. I hardly said a thing besides teasing. I just thought I would bring that up here in my journal.

Here i always thought it was hard to get to know someone when they just spill there guts. I guess it takes some learning to pick up on the "hints" or their ways of talking and a bit of Subliminal help. I felt in the moment and genuine. My presence must be growing tremendously

Day 19 into stage 4 of Alpha Male 2010

all the negativity that rose during the beginning has subsided.

I feel like i have an equal balance of extrovert and introvert I am great by my self and love it and when out with people in social situations its like i get a huge boost to actually communicate.

My posse of women chasing me is growing fast. Getting girls who's number i already had begging me to text them or they randomly IM me on facebook.

I know people are starting to hate something about me because they try to put me down and it just bounces off or i make a joke and make them look stupid for insulting me.

My friends are all saying that im a cocky Mother-f***** but shocked at how i am now.My quick wit and sarcastic humor have increased as well.

my dreams for the past few days have been full of women i know or have dated and are just strange in general.

this is all i have noticed into stage 4 can't wait for stage 5

Today was amusing

That girl who almost cut her fingers off. Well if you guys remember when i said that she would only take a diamond ring from me, and how the clients boss told her she pretty much proposed to me...

Well she had been telling my friends and a few other people that no one should flirt with her since im her "fiance" har har har. Well today i brought in a cubic zirconium silver wire wrapped ring (one of many my mom makes) and joked with her about her telling every one im her "fiance".

Of course this caught her off guard when i said "since your going around telling people im your "fiance" i have this for you, **shows ring** i saved up lots of money to buy tons of boxes of cracker jacks for this ring". She then snatched it out of my hand quickly and had a big ol smile and turned really red and slipped it on. i just laughed

Well her friend (she seems attracted to me as well) said that she should make out with me because of it and seemed really jealous of the fake ring...I just laughed and thought it was entertaining to throw her (the ring receiver) off guard today.

I know in the past i sure as heck would never have done something like this at all and would have hated myself for not even taking the risk. Mission Accomplished

U may know kiss the bride
no, seriously do it...

I'm an ordained minister. so if you do get married just holler

hahaha i don't want to get married lol...Besides all the other women chasing me would be disappointed

this is just too funny, i can't seem to control two things my mouth and doing stuff for humor. Whats funny is she is getting all of the teasing and im just laughing over it all.

If i were to propose to any woman for real id have a real diamond ring and do it in the most unexpected way

I have had nothing but huge resistance the past few days (since Thursday actually)

I am wondering if it has to do with me pushing myself out of my comfort zone with the strip club, the girl who cut my hair and then giving the ring to the one girl. That was a lot of things i did out of my normal comfort zone and as we all know affirmations/subs lead to a roller coaster of good and bad days. I guess i was on the downward slope and am coming back up stronger then before.

I felt highly confident, a sexy motherf***** and in control of my self that all of it just dripped off me now i feel kind of like i did when i started stage 2.

On a side note i think my other friend who is highly confident him self, seems to be insecure around me called my gay 4 different ways in one breath... All i did was not agree with him on something and said i didn't want to hang out that night. I helped get him a job where we work and he seems jealous of how i joke with the girl i gave the ring to and how she is highly attracted to me.

also the strip club owner was asking where i was to my friends as they went there again on Saturday. Not sure if that is good or bad but i left an impression of some sorts on him. I only went the once they have gone two times since but whatever its still funny.

This might have nothing to do with it,
but I ve look at porn about a couple of times in the last 4 months
usually not even for that long and not even neccasrily taming the snake, and each time has lead to 1-3 horrible next days, or at the best just I feel ok
but much more powerless, I can't state enough how bad I think this kind of thing is for guys, and a strip joint might have a similar effect. It just downloads negative crap into is. In fact I have a theory that male angst in the modern age is due to porn lol.
I think pushing ur comfort zone is awesome and highly doubt it has anything to do with how u feel.
I think its most likely the resistance to old structures in the mind falling apart and being replaced. I know how much it sucks so just hang through, u don't even have to have faith, just keep the play button on and before u know
ull be better than before.