08-22-2012, 08:16 AM
I understand there is a masculinism movement going on in here, and I fully agree with the sentiment behind it.
What I think I'm beginning to agree with more though, is that Shannon's programs (alpha male, alpha female) seem to transcend feminism or masculinism, the pushing against others or struggling for your rights, and be a means to become fully realized in oneself, independently. Independent of whatever is going on for other people. As a woman it's irrelevant if my father, my neighbour, the men in my city, my ex husband are mysoginistic in some way, I am who I am and the focus is on my own development and not on them. I'm finding the more you take the focus and the blame off of others, the more free you become and the need to struggle is eliminated.
This whole, "men are terrible" "women are evil and manipulative" argument has gotten old at this stage of human development and it's time to look in the mirror instead of pointing fingers.
http://www.motherjones.com/media/2012/08...cca-solnit
A very amusing rendition of the same dynamic is: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y4oydSZTAns
This article was fascinating, and pointed out just how much Alpha Female has changed my life. I've always been one of those listeners, lol the amount of time I've spent listening to men tell me things surpasses any other kind of interaction I've had with them. Age does not matter. At one point, this kind of dynamic shaped and controlled every aspect of my life, when I was younger and still interested in being married to my husband.
Since AF, I understand and am fully aware when the above dynamic is happening... and yet I do not buy into it at all. I used to. It's extremely difficult for men or women to not be swayed by that kind of powerful dynamic, but I see it and am consciously aware of what is going on. Sometimes I'll play along, out of curiosity, politeness, diplomacy (a lot of these people are clients, and I appreciate their business very much) but I no longer am subjugated. That is 100 percent AF program conditioning. The best thing about it is that there is no defensiveness on my part because there is no power struggle. Whatever role I've chosen to play here, it was a choice and I am in control of myself, and therefore not threatened.
I think the alpha programs are brilliant for this, and for moving people past the immaturity and need to strikeback, be aggressively confrontational or defend against people who do not actually have any more power over you than you allow them to.
What I think I'm beginning to agree with more though, is that Shannon's programs (alpha male, alpha female) seem to transcend feminism or masculinism, the pushing against others or struggling for your rights, and be a means to become fully realized in oneself, independently. Independent of whatever is going on for other people. As a woman it's irrelevant if my father, my neighbour, the men in my city, my ex husband are mysoginistic in some way, I am who I am and the focus is on my own development and not on them. I'm finding the more you take the focus and the blame off of others, the more free you become and the need to struggle is eliminated.
This whole, "men are terrible" "women are evil and manipulative" argument has gotten old at this stage of human development and it's time to look in the mirror instead of pointing fingers.
http://www.motherjones.com/media/2012/08...cca-solnit
A very amusing rendition of the same dynamic is: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y4oydSZTAns
This article was fascinating, and pointed out just how much Alpha Female has changed my life. I've always been one of those listeners, lol the amount of time I've spent listening to men tell me things surpasses any other kind of interaction I've had with them. Age does not matter. At one point, this kind of dynamic shaped and controlled every aspect of my life, when I was younger and still interested in being married to my husband.
Since AF, I understand and am fully aware when the above dynamic is happening... and yet I do not buy into it at all. I used to. It's extremely difficult for men or women to not be swayed by that kind of powerful dynamic, but I see it and am consciously aware of what is going on. Sometimes I'll play along, out of curiosity, politeness, diplomacy (a lot of these people are clients, and I appreciate their business very much) but I no longer am subjugated. That is 100 percent AF program conditioning. The best thing about it is that there is no defensiveness on my part because there is no power struggle. Whatever role I've chosen to play here, it was a choice and I am in control of myself, and therefore not threatened.
I think the alpha programs are brilliant for this, and for moving people past the immaturity and need to strikeback, be aggressively confrontational or defend against people who do not actually have any more power over you than you allow them to.