07-04-2020, 04:25 PM
My 2 cents.
An apparent fear I felt while reading was "what if I had no control over my life's direction?" For me, it's being powerless, all over the place, learned from living with others believing they were powerless to change. It's a very unsettling fear which I've had, for it's meant I've allowed others to be in control, and some care not about me, much less themselves. Kind of like your bride in the dream.
In short, living like that was living in constant fear. Living like that over time, even without their presence and imput, had me lose hope, thinking I had no other choices except for bad ones, all to keep the family "norm" in place. I ended up making some poor choices for myself. But using OF specifically is like taking some mental blinders off.
What I'm realizing is that these past poor choices have come from my inner child's projections, reality, and beliefs. I'm still learning how to love him, correct him responsibly, and be an attentive parent. The use of OF is challenging some of these old beliefs constantly, as I'm facing some of it each and every day (not too intensely). But again, I'm seeing it constantly.
So, thank you for making OF. We always have choice. This sub is helping me see that.
Have you had any personal insights about yourself since the dream?
An apparent fear I felt while reading was "what if I had no control over my life's direction?" For me, it's being powerless, all over the place, learned from living with others believing they were powerless to change. It's a very unsettling fear which I've had, for it's meant I've allowed others to be in control, and some care not about me, much less themselves. Kind of like your bride in the dream.
In short, living like that was living in constant fear. Living like that over time, even without their presence and imput, had me lose hope, thinking I had no other choices except for bad ones, all to keep the family "norm" in place. I ended up making some poor choices for myself. But using OF specifically is like taking some mental blinders off.
What I'm realizing is that these past poor choices have come from my inner child's projections, reality, and beliefs. I'm still learning how to love him, correct him responsibly, and be an attentive parent. The use of OF is challenging some of these old beliefs constantly, as I'm facing some of it each and every day (not too intensely). But again, I'm seeing it constantly.
So, thank you for making OF. We always have choice. This sub is helping me see that.
Have you had any personal insights about yourself since the dream?
I want to be FREE!
