02-14-2013, 04:50 PM
Quote:I've noticed an unadvertised benefit, that I've lost all of those Nice Guy [per Dr. Robert Glover] behaviors, like covert contracts, or feeling ashamed of my desires.
Some girl I've been chatting with called me out for flirting with multiple women. I said that I was, because I'm looking for high quality women, and if she couldn't accept that, I would miss chatting with her. She's filipina, so a harder reframe would have been too much.
It's funny that, when you are comfortable with it usually they change their mind.Quote:Do you feel like you have a sense of entitlement over everyone else? A very strong sense of pride? Do you think you are better than any one person? Do you have a need to defend yourself and opinions most if not all the time (this is not if someone is being disrespectful but more along the lines of a debate... always winning the arguement)? Are you ungrateful?
Interesting, I made alot of those improvements now that you mention it. I am much more grateful in general and alot more now when somebody has a really stupid opinion I don't feel the need to defend mine as much and get into massive arguments.
Funnily enough at the same time, if somebody really wants to talk shit and get in an argument at times I enjoy it now and am like "if you want an argument I will give you one." And strangely i've found that when I get in that mindset alot of them totally change their tune.
Quote:False ego is the enemy of the True Alpha. That's why you don't see true alphas getting into fights to prove how tough they are: they're above that sort of idiocy. The Master knows he has the skill, and does not need to say so, because he doesn't rely on anyone else for his validation of his own skills. Likewise the True Alpha. And when that false ego is controlled, balanced, transformed into true ego (genuine self validation and understanding), he achieves something that puts him in that highest level of alpha-ness: genuine class.
I had a funny thing the other day, on a forum someone posted an article "25 Traits of an Alpha Male" and one guy criticized it saying it sounded like a gangster, can't remember exactly but he seen it in a negative light. And I seen nothing like that.
I said "Obviously you have a lot of nice guy programming if you think that". And planned to help him learn something.
He come back explosively "Fuck you you little bitch, you don't know anything about me".
Wow... and I actually burst out laughing at this obvious attempt of him trying to look tough and show he is a 'big man'. It didn't offend me at all, I simply said "And with one sentence you have proven my point."
I got nothing back.
But yeah, that was a great example of what you are talking about.
-Ben
