12-10-2012, 11:44 AM
A friend invited me to her company Christmas party. I have a few friends there, so it was going to be a fun time all around. The company is small, so the party was in a few meeting rooms at the local hotel.
I dressed very well for the occasion, and received several compliments, and a few unspoken compliments as well. (I caught a couple ladies checking me out).
Playing it cool was natural. I occupied space, spoke when I felt like it, and tolerated boredom fairly well when the speeches were happening.
Then the dancing started. At first, my old "I don't dance" patterns were in charge, and then I just decided to get out there. Everything was in my favor for the first hour: I was the only man on the dance floor with 5 very attractive ladies. Later, one of the ladies asked for Latin music, and was showing me the steps and leading. I was having a GREAT time just dancing, and my prior stuck-thinking-instead-of-doing issues were not present, all replaced by just enjoying dancing with a fit, beautiful, and married woman.
Looking back, the self-consciousness that would have normally tainted an evening like that were not present at all. Also, one woman, to whom I was very physically attracted from seeing her photographs, generated no attraction for me in person. Something in her personality and presence transformed that attraction into the complete absence of attraction. Not revulsion, just *nothing*.
I dressed very well for the occasion, and received several compliments, and a few unspoken compliments as well. (I caught a couple ladies checking me out).
Playing it cool was natural. I occupied space, spoke when I felt like it, and tolerated boredom fairly well when the speeches were happening.
Then the dancing started. At first, my old "I don't dance" patterns were in charge, and then I just decided to get out there. Everything was in my favor for the first hour: I was the only man on the dance floor with 5 very attractive ladies. Later, one of the ladies asked for Latin music, and was showing me the steps and leading. I was having a GREAT time just dancing, and my prior stuck-thinking-instead-of-doing issues were not present, all replaced by just enjoying dancing with a fit, beautiful, and married woman.
Looking back, the self-consciousness that would have normally tainted an evening like that were not present at all. Also, one woman, to whom I was very physically attracted from seeing her photographs, generated no attraction for me in person. Something in her personality and presence transformed that attraction into the complete absence of attraction. Not revulsion, just *nothing*.
Fear is a liar.
There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self. -- Ernest Hemingway
There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self. -- Ernest Hemingway
