SargeMaximus: Time to Heal (DMSI 3.2A)

[lano1106]

You don't do it for them. Standing up for yourself to defend your right to be respected is feeding your subconcious mind concerning your self-esteem...

[SargeMaximus]

You don't do it for them. Standing up for yourself to defend your right to be respected is feeding your subconcious mind concerning your self-esteem...

I don't know man. What would it accomplish? I don't see it.

[lano1106]

too long to explain but I am currently reading a book called 'The 6 pillars of self-esteem' where it pretty much explain it all.

Check it out if you are curious

[SargeMaximus]

too long to explain but I am currently reading a book called 'The 6 pillars of self-esteem' where it pretty much explain it all.

Check it out if you are curious

K thanks.

[SargeMaximus]

ION, I made my own subliminal. There's no file to download. It's called "Breathing 1.0". Basically, as long as you don't resist, you'll breathe air which is, you know, essential to survival. I'll make millions.

[MasterEnki]

You don't do it for them. Standing up for yourself to defend your right to be respected is feeding your subconcious mind concerning your self-esteem...

Walking away is a powerful message to your subconscious that you deserve better than to be treated like crap. And takes minimum resources to do.

Putting ‘someone in their place’ (“defend your right to be respected”) takes resources, time and energy.

Better to put those resources / time / energy into something else?

[SargeMaximus]

You don't do it for them. Standing up for yourself to defend your right to be respected is feeding your subconcious mind concerning your self-esteem...

Walking away is a powerful message to your subconscious that you deserve better than to be treated like crap. And takes minimum resources to do.

Putting ‘someone in their place’ (“defend your right to be respected”) takes resources, time and energy.

Better to put those resources / time / energy into something else?

Agreed.

[SargeMaximus]

Reading "The Charisma Myth" by Olivia Fox Cabane again. I never finished it and I felt it was high-time I did. Charisma is very important to achieving my goals.

I wanted to share a quote that I thought was relevant to many on here:

"For Brian, paradoxically, self-compassion was the route to being perceived as more of a confident alpha male."

[lano1106]

I have red Olivia Fox Cabana book. imho, it is a very good book to have a better intuition on how to be charismatic.

[SargeMaximus]

I have red Olivia Fox Cabana book. imho, it is a very good book to have a better intuition on how to be charismatic.

Yeah it's gold. Ironically, one of the most effective exercises I've used from the book is the "Responsibility Transfer". Essentially, you make everything something else's responsibility, not yours. Frees up a ton of energy.

[lano1106]

I have red Olivia Fox Cabana book. imho, it is a very good book to have a better intuition on how to be charismatic.

Yeah it's gold. Ironically, one of the most effective exercises I've used from the book is the "Responsibility Transfer". Essentially, you make everything something else's responsibility, not yours. Frees up a ton of energy.

hmmm. that is curious... if you can, please tell me which page this exercise is... Out of context, it seems to go against the conventional wisdom that says to take responsibility to what happens to you to develop a sense of control over your life.

The closest that I remember out of my mind to what you describe was the exercise where you diffuse the uniqueness of the problem to everyone else.

If you feel that you have a unique problem that no one else ever had, it feels like a big problem. To the contrary, if you talk to you into thinking that it is an ordinary problem that everyone has experienced one time or the other, it makes you feel the challenge that you are facing much smaller...

[SargeMaximus]

I have red Olivia Fox Cabana book. imho, it is a very good book to have a better intuition on how to be charismatic.

Yeah it's gold. Ironically, one of the most effective exercises I've used from the book is the "Responsibility Transfer". Essentially, you make everything something else's responsibility, not yours. Frees up a ton of energy.

hmmm. that is curious... if you can, please tell me which page this exercise is... Out of context, it seems to go against the conventional wisdom that says to take responsibility to what happens to you to develop a sense of control over your life.

The closest that I remember out of my mind to what you describe was the exercise where you diffuse the uniqueness of the problem to everyone else.

If you feel that you have a unique problem that no one else ever had, it feels like a big problem. To the contrary, if you talk to you into thinking that it is an ordinary problem that everyone has experienced one time or the other, it makes you feel the challenge that you are facing much smaller...

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[SargeMaximus]

Girls may be taking me too seriously online. A few recent convos suggest as much. I'm using the same old lines but they responding different. One I said "so what's your story?" and she never got back to me till like 4 days later. She's like "So, what information do you want with that question? That will depend on the story I tell" I'm going to say something like "woah, I was just making conversation, but if you want to write me your autobiography that will do" or something, I dunno.

Another girl, after responding positively to my opener, I said "That's good. You know I read your profile and it would never work between us. We'd have too much fun together" she goes "well that's a bummer" so I said "such is life [name]"

I don't know wtf I'm doing.

Anyhow, ION, found a new pornstar I really like but she rarely shaves her pubes and that's a major turn off so I can only watch a few of her scenes. How tragic.

[SargeMaximus]

It occurs to me that we need to have more “irresistability” in DMSI. The word is specific.