Overcoming Social Anxiety/Love and Appreciate Yourself - Journal of Jay

[Jay]

Yes, well we cannot blame our parents for our negatives, even though they may have influenced, we ultimately are responsible for our thoughts.

I completely concur, also when you dive into the history of your own parents a bit it makes it easier to accept their behaviours, and makes you better at understanding their motives for treating you the way they did. Also blaming makes you become stuck, and creates more feelings of anger and anxiety, because you're trying to get control over external sources, and that's like trying to control the weather. The only thing you really have control over is only yourself and the way you project yourself to the world.

... you'll be feeling better because you feel better about yourself and that's where happiness really comes from

I completely agree on that as well, it's also pretty liberating to know that it all depends on yourself on being happy, instead of being dependent on the moods of others. You have full control over that, it just depends on what you let through and how much value you give it, and the knowledge that it isn't necessary to think that someone else has a stronger reality of yourself, than that you have of yourself. But I'm still trying to work this out for myself

Also the bigger of a hole you dug for yourself, the bigger the reward when you manage to climb out of it.