I've tried to clear it from a few angles but I'm not there yet.. I've tried:
-imagining feeling anxious while waiting alone in a long queue to enter a club
-the feeling of "no escape" where you can't see anyone interesting to talk to, and don't have friends there to fall back to
-something other angles too, can't remember
I did go into a bar alone yesterday, but I was ready to end the night already and didn't see anything interesting so I just left. Now that you said it (in your journal) I think going out alone is DESPERATE. When I go out with friends, I think it'll be fun and I'll get to joke around & stuff and then go when I see someone I like. Usually we split up anyway and once we've been in the bar for a while its almost like we're there alone. I almost always talk to girls alone, its just simpler that way. Or the other option is 2 guys and 2 girls who divide into 2 pairs. If I'd go out alone, there'd be nothing to do but to "stalk & hunt" for chicks, is what I think.. I also have this idea that I'd be very low-energy and that I'd need to drink a lot, because for some unintelligible reason I couldn't just drink coke like I normally do.. I feel I'd still need to drink something (more than with friends), because I *couldn't* just stand there for long.. and hangovers suck (excuse). I think the right way to think of it would be to just go over (to the bar & to people there) and see if there's anything fun ("socializing is just a fun game"), but I'm not quite there yet with this alone stuff.
I didn't think to run the normal click tracks for positive affirmations before, that could work. I mean, not work to install the affirmation, but to trigger those negative emotional responses and delete them. What if I thought to myself "going out alone is desperate" while doing it, theoretically I'd just well on it seemingly endlessly, until I'd start to giggle like a girl? Kinda feels bad to repeat a negative affirmation, though. Well, I'll try it.
-imagining feeling anxious while waiting alone in a long queue to enter a club
-the feeling of "no escape" where you can't see anyone interesting to talk to, and don't have friends there to fall back to
-something other angles too, can't remember
I did go into a bar alone yesterday, but I was ready to end the night already and didn't see anything interesting so I just left. Now that you said it (in your journal) I think going out alone is DESPERATE. When I go out with friends, I think it'll be fun and I'll get to joke around & stuff and then go when I see someone I like. Usually we split up anyway and once we've been in the bar for a while its almost like we're there alone. I almost always talk to girls alone, its just simpler that way. Or the other option is 2 guys and 2 girls who divide into 2 pairs. If I'd go out alone, there'd be nothing to do but to "stalk & hunt" for chicks, is what I think.. I also have this idea that I'd be very low-energy and that I'd need to drink a lot, because for some unintelligible reason I couldn't just drink coke like I normally do.. I feel I'd still need to drink something (more than with friends), because I *couldn't* just stand there for long.. and hangovers suck (excuse). I think the right way to think of it would be to just go over (to the bar & to people there) and see if there's anything fun ("socializing is just a fun game"), but I'm not quite there yet with this alone stuff.
I didn't think to run the normal click tracks for positive affirmations before, that could work. I mean, not work to install the affirmation, but to trigger those negative emotional responses and delete them. What if I thought to myself "going out alone is desperate" while doing it, theoretically I'd just well on it seemingly endlessly, until I'd start to giggle like a girl? Kinda feels bad to repeat a negative affirmation, though. Well, I'll try it.
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