09-09-2014, 04:00 PM
(09-09-2014, 07:14 AM)LionKing Wrote: Also, I'm trying to leave lots more space for the woman to participate in the conversation. MI pointed out the mistake I did to me, which was that I tried to talk a lot about whatever to show that I'm not needy, to not have the conversation "die out", and to make her comfortable. Now I'm finding that they DO actually start to talk their heads off if there's some sexual (not anxious) tension and I just hold it comfortably. I guess the tension is what makes them talk; I'm not releasing it, so they have to - by talking. I used to think that tension would make them leave, but this is much more fun
This helps me. I'm in Stage 2 now and I literally stirred up a hornet's nest at work today. I guess it was tension of some kind. I kept noticing how the guys would talk and laugh constantly, till I went into my "child of the universe state" and everything calmed right down. Interesting. I also noticed how on sunday my own mother was talking like a chatter box. Must be some auras or something.
