(08-27-2016, 05:18 PM)apollolux Wrote: You mostly repeated the thing you said rather than giving actual examples of actions and behaviors to accomplish "validating her sexuality and her inner sexual energy." What would you say one does to do so?
It's a mindset.
Now, it's all about energy. We all know that sexual energy is our life-force energy.
So, a) It's vital to explore your sex. How many of us here can say that we know our sexuality? Sure, we know what's get our d*ck jumping, but mostly, that's it. How many of us has truly explored our sexuality? If there is anything you can do, the first step is to let this sex raging monster rise and give him time to breathe. Embrace it. It's a whole different topic on how we can do that. So moving onward.
There's a whole lot of hypocrite moral police out there. It's endless. The media, the society, it's everywhere. They will make you feel like your sexuality is a curse. Therefore, when you explore yourself sexuality and let it take over you, you'll often find yourself immersed in shame, guilt and what not. But if and when you do begin the process, think of it like your sexuality is your child. It's your responsibility to feed it, cultivate it, embrace it, play with it, and watch it grow.
Okay, some of you might be like, "But what does it have to do with women, and validating her sexual energy?"
You see, in order to connect to her on the sexual level, you need to connect to your sexuality first. Ask yourself this -- Are you sexually liberated? Most of the time an honest answer is -- No, I am afraid of my own sexuality. And if you are afraid of your own sexuality, you can't connect to her sexuality. Plain and simple.
b) Here is the second step -- Train yourself to see beyond her looks. I admit it's not easy to do. We have trained ourselves since childhood to believe "how sexy she is" equals "how sexy she looks". Here's a little trick to train yourself, when you see any smokin' chick, remind yourself this -- "She is energy". That's it. Beyond her body, she is an absolute miracle of sexual abundance (and so are you). Imagine your energies merging together with each other.
c) It's amazing how when one thing falls in place, rest of the other things too. When you are unafraid of your sexuality, you are unafraid of others sexuality too. And when you free of your own sexual chains, you accept her sexuality automatically. And that's how you validate her sexuality, by bringing forward your sexuality to her. Let her know that you are a sexual being. You are not telling her, "you are beautiful" and a bunch of other bs. She hears it every day, thousand times a day. Words are not your friends. Your body is, your touch is, your intention is. What she needs is a man who understands her sexuality and feels safe and free to explore it with him. Again, it's a different topic how we can accomplish that. (maybe I should start a blog!)
But one thing you can do is invite her into your world -- "Baby, we are goin' on a roller coaster ride. It's not for the weak of heart, but if you accept my invitation, you sure gonna have hell lot of a fun. It's your choice". If she refuses, move on. Let's just say your energies didn't align well. That's all. And if she accepts, well, have fun!
So, here is the summary:
a) Be sexually unapologetic and liberated.
b) Train yourself to see beyond her looks.
c) State your intentions right away. You are not here to be her friend, but to be her lover.
There are many steps in the middle, and many right and wrong ways to accomplish these steps. It can't fit in just one post. But I do hope this post clear things a bit for anybody who is curious.
EDIT: @Steven -- I'll come back to answer you later, bud. Till then, I hope this post answers some of your questions.
