(12-13-2016, 11:15 AM)eternity Wrote: a woman's words just triggered my inferiority complex and my sensitivity by making her situation seem somewhat superior to what I had to face. And it's making my blood BOIL. I am very angry right now. To the point where I wanna engage in a verbal boxing match with her when I see her. I wouldn't let this get to me but the problem is that I really care about her, and people this close to me can really get under my skin because they know me so well and use what they know about me against me.
i need to be cleared of triggers like this. i can't afford to be reacting so emotionally to something so petty. it's MY inferiority complex that needs to be dealt with. MY sensitivity that is getting me into trouble.
Hey man, maybe it will be useful for you to know that the bold part may not necessarily be true. I had an ENFP best friend for a long time and your reaction sounds a bit familiar.
Of course, I don't know you personally, so I may be wrong here.If you're anything like the ENFP I knew, then thinking somebody is out to get you is part of the problem. If you're comfortable with what's under your skin, nobody can "get" you. You'd be surprised how few people (if any) care to do that anyway.
I've been accused of doing things like that in the past (including when I lost the friendship, if I may call it that) and if that helps, I could only find the accusations ranging from funny to absurd.
What's under your skin probably isn't vomiting rainbows though.
Hope that helps.
