(05-24-2012, 03:58 AM)RainbowAbyss Wrote: Hey AV! welcome!
glad you were inspired by the perfect story idea and know it will really align and changes things for the better in a shockingly quick and amazing way if you stay consistent with it and just believe.
AM will also undoubtedly help tremendously with the positive changes it sounds like your looking for.
My 2 cents: Alot of people say to stay patient for the results...truth is I disagree...forget patients!! Know the results will come undoubtedly and start doing everything in your power now to grow in the ways you want and act towards whatever it is your trying to accomplish. Break the inertia barrier with ANYTHING-any action that moves you one baby millimeter closer to the man you want to be. Once you feel even a tiny bit of momentum-your going to want to keep building it
In your case set yourself a challenge and a reason to socialize at least for 5 minutes with someone your unfamiliar with a day. Even better..make that person feel good. Make their day. It could be the cashier...the person next to you on public transport...the girl at the party your at...whatever it is you have nothing to lose and are only doing it for the sake of the action itself. Whatever the other person's reaction does not matter...their behavior doesn't NECESSARILY means anything about you! And you can't really control them any way..all you can do is present your best self and since it sounds like your striving to be the best man you can be, doing subs/affirmations etc, and since you know taking action IS presenting your best self... then doing that one action..just DOING IT...will make you feel less sad and less scared..it will make you feel happier and more powerful...and possibly connected lol.
I used to be, and still really am, a super introvert, only a little over 3 years ago I couldn't be in a high stimulation social environment without puking. After Alpha and SM am I'm going out 3-4 nights a week and everywhere I go I feel like I own the place and am extremely comfortable initiating, socializing and talking to most everyone. The subs help tremendously...so does placing yourself in social environments until you see its NO BIG DEAL to be social-everyone is nervous for the most part-especially when the person they are talking to walks away lol. 90% of people don't know what to do with themselves at that point other than be sullen/fidget/or try to look cool.
Mirror affirmations can help tremendously but they can actually put more pressure on you as well at times. I'd say keep them light, 5-10 minutes tops-2x a day tops, while on heavy sets like Alpha. Also when your out-run them through your head again. For example in your scenario above you could say to yourself "You know..I kind of DO FEEl like talking to people..I have a reason to talk to people...there's something I want to tell xxx" or even better in my opinion would be asking yourself "how am I so social?...why do I just feel like talking to people?...how is it so easy and fun?" and not trying to answer those just asking and letting it go.
Anyway hope any of that helps and good luck...
Thank You Rainbow for great advice! Yeah I am definitely try to talk to people that I don't know and try to have fun with it. lol
About the mirror affirmation, it is really interesting to try and I am so excited with it it is great suggestion and I add those sentences to my mirror affirmation, thanks for the idea.
Surely, I will report it on my journal if I get result from your suggestions.
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