09-15-2016, 10:23 AM
(09-15-2016, 10:11 AM)SargeMaximus Wrote:(09-15-2016, 10:09 AM)Shannon Wrote: Flaking is a display of disregard and disrespect. It's a shit test, too, sometimes.
I don't do disrespectful females.
Case closed.
I agree with you Shannon, BUT, I have to wonder how guys like a coach I once had (bisexual guy, maybe that plays a part?) can be so cool with it. He mentioned a few times where women flaked on him and then he ended up banging them. Some as much as a year later! Of course, he didn't hang around them, but he was still willing to sleep with them after they came back.
I know another woman who's a flake. Super hot flake, but a notorious flake. She loses a lot of guys' interest because she's so bad about it.
I tried at first, and she told me she wasn't interested. So I dropped it. Then a mutual friend told me she was very interested, but that really scared her, so she was avoiding me.
I tried to make an effort again, and she flaked and flaked.
I dropped it.
She contacted me, suggested camping trip. I agreed, she flaked.
And again, and again...
Now I just say "Yeah, whatever."
I know she can't keep a straight line, so I don't take her seriously anymore.
She's likely going to be staying at my house in a month or two, for a month or two.
And when she does, I know she will respond to me with sexual attraction. We are naturally attracted to each other that way, although I notice that she likes to pretend we don't. Whatever, don't care.
If she lives here and she's giving me the signals, will I have sex with her? Maybe. She's a flake, by her personality. Her personality does not comprehend respect and the value of other people's time. It's not intentional - it's just that personality. She is the definition of a flake.
Is it disrespectful? Yes. Does that matter? If you think about it, when I comprehend respect and consideration and she does not, is there any point to getting upset with her for being who and what she is by nature? No.
So I take her as she is. And because she's hot, I'm attracted. And because she's a flake, I am put off. So if she ever comes on to me, I'll probably have sex with her. But I'm not going to go out of my way for it. And I'm not going to jump at the chance. I'm over it. She blew it for my focused attention and interest long ago.
Intentional flaking by someone who understands respect, that's another matter. The clueless ADD she displays, you just have to take her as she is and let it be. If she wanders over, great. If she wanders away, great.
No fucks given.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!