07-11-2016, 05:06 AM
(07-11-2016, 04:50 AM)Shannon Wrote:(07-11-2016, 04:32 AM)SargeMaximus Wrote: Is this such a good idea Shannon? I'm all for forgiveness, but if someone has wronged you and you forgive them without them making it up to you, you are essentially becoming a door mat are you not?
Not to mention it's kind of like putting their needs before your own.
The idea is that since anger, hate and grudges are self destructive, you get yourself to the point that you can let go of them and move on with your life.
It's not intended to be "forgive, lay down and repeat getting mistreated" BS. It's not telling you to keep doing the same thing or let people walk on you. It's telling you, "Here is a blockage for achieving the goals of this program, let's do what you need to do to get past it and enjoy success."
In other words, you can do what you like, but if the program is going to succeed in achieving it's goals, you need to let go of the things that caused the blockages and take down the walls that you've built that are going to prevent success in achieving the goals of the program.
If holding a grudge, being angry at others or hating others is more important to you than achieving the goals of the program, definitely don't use it.
Anger and hate are self destructive. They are also self limiting. They drain energy unnecessarily, limit you unnecessarily and act like acid for your emotions. Some people are addicted to them because they feel "justified" feeling them. You can be "justified" all day long, but justified doesn't change the limitations, drain and corrosive effects they have on YOU, while they do NOTHING to the people you are angry with or hate.
Growing past letting yourself be used or taken advantage of is not prevented by the programming. It just frees you to succeed where you would not otherwise have been able to. Anyone with common sense is going to learn how not to let people treat them, even if they're not holding a grudge, anger or hate.
Well I'm in a bit of a bind there since women respond best to me when I let that hatred and anger run freely. :/
In my experience, getting all "lovey dovey" only makes you weaker.
(07-11-2016, 04:54 AM)4Kingdoms Wrote: I'm sure you have witnessed people stand up for themselves and still give forgiveness. I believe (can't prove it) this module will help someone stand up for themselves and blow off the offender. Again, helping them to move on with their life.
Well sure, for small things. I stood up for myself a few times in the last few weeks and once the boundary was accepted, continued on as if nothing had happened. But it doesn't mean I'll let someone off the hook again if they show a pattern of such behavior. Especially once we've talked about it.