(02-01-2016, 08:58 PM)eternitys_child Wrote: i've noticed a huge improvement in approval seeking too. i've been able to humble myself and not feel the need to speak my opinion in "fear of" not having my voice heard and opinion stated. i don't NEED to have an opinion all the time, and when I DO, it doesn't need to be stated all the time. although i got called out by teh owner of the sober house for being quite lately at the house meeting, and when i told him i've been humbling myself, he said that's all fine and dandy but my wisdom is needed at the sober house meetings.
This part really intrigues me and further goes on to convince me what I have realized since starting this sub, that fear is one-faced, and every other label is an illusion. If I were you, in that exact position, I'd have spoken my mind out since I didn't state my opinions out of fear of being judged in the past.
So far I believe fear boils down to fear of the threat to identity or survival. That's it. Any more labels cause only confusion. But my beliefs are subjected to change as I progress through the sub.