02-01-2016, 07:29 PM
(02-01-2016, 01:48 PM)CatMan Wrote: I had a lot of that same kind of thinking going on...
It pretty much boils down to fear of rejection, fear of being vulnerable, fear of not being good enough etc.
You need time on OF to address this. I went down the same road and asked Shannon why SM3 turned out so weird and underwhelming, and he said flat out it's fear.
At least you know your next program, to get things moving!
Join the OF brigade, haha!
Actually, I have no issue with fear in my whole life, at least that's what I think now, but the point is I pretty much don't have fear in my life after the run of SM3, and I could not believe the thing with fear that I don't have it.
Funny thing I remember as someone said regarding overcoming fear in the forum that I should not accept fight with bullies or something in line with he should not become the person who accepts fight and that's where I think I have become absolutely the person who doesn't even think before speaking or doing what I want, and I think fear has been completely vanished.
And the choice of not making move on to the girls was because of their being not meeting my standards and their being not emotionally healthy, because I now understand how my ex was also emotional baggage and she was having tremendous problems with her mental health.
People in general are mostly not someone that inspires me, and I am fine by it as long as that does not affect me. Though SM has made me mostly a big arrogant and fighter and I am glad that I am, because I am the nicest person unless someone tries to manipulate me or mistreat me.
So, I think the way I desribed things might have lead you to believe that fear is the issue because I dont even think that fear is a part of my life anymore.
