03-31-2011, 06:39 PM
(03-31-2011, 10:08 AM)mat422 Wrote: Thanks for the encouragement. Teasing is something I definitely have become more comfortable with thanks to the sub. Underneath it all I just feel it's very hard for me to connect and let down my guard. I think it's more of a fear of rejection than worrying what she thinks about me. It could be both though who knows. I'm one of those guys when something goes wrong it replays in my head over and over, and I can't stop it. I'm very critical of myself which I try not to be, but one thing can easily ruin my entire day or throw me into a depression. But that's why I started the sub anyway, because I was aware of these things and couldn't actually consciously change them.
I was there as well Mat. I would over analyze every thing and get stuck in my head because of this i would think low of my self. I would think it didn't work with this girl why would it work with that girl, this would snowball into more reasons not to do something. The alpha sub has made it way more easy for me to not care what people think and just be me. The harshest judge you will ever meet is yourself.
(03-31-2011, 05:36 PM)Shannon Wrote: By the way, teasing women and treating them like a little sister seems to be the Magic Bullet. It instantly puts them into a familiar/comfortable/known you forever/he's not needy frame of reference for them, and it's fun to boot. I have friends who are better at it than I am, but it's absolutely deadly for getting women to be interested and sometimes even pursue you.
That inner holding back isn't healthy for you, but your perfectionist tendencies will make you refuse to be easy for women to get, and that's another thing they can't seem to get enough of. Tell a woman no after she's interested and she'll hunt you down like a lion stalking a gazelle. lol
Shannon i love that magic bullet and was always told that but i don't think i could have actually been as good with it if it wasn't for the flirt sub and Alpha male plus i have 2 sisters who i have teased my entire life. I agree it is major fun, the entertainment i get from it is better then most things we have in daily life.
Ill add to the magic bullet is do a lot of high fives and handshakes it makes it fun and less serious or tense. i mean the most important thing is just to have fun and be in the moment. Can't criticize yourself if you were just having fun can you?
