03-12-2011, 01:34 PM
Well, I've pretty much decided that ASC did what I wanted it to, and I'm pretty satisfied with it to discontinue listening.
One thing I've noticed along with everything else, is less inhibition to say what I want to say. And not that I'm less tactful, but before I was almost overly concerned about how I said something might come across. Now I'm less worried about it. It has helped a lot with lessening the need for validation. In speaking my own mind more freely, and not being overly concerned about "how" I say something, that's been huge!! Or, I'll more confidently speak, like my tone is louder. It used to feel so unnatural to speak louder than my normal softer voice, but I'm definitely noticing that I'm louder.....for me! lol, I'm not some loud mouth now, but I probably have a more consistent speaking volume.
Eye contact has changed too. Before I didn't really have a problem looking someone in the eye, but I would look down and around after awhile. Now I've been keeping eye contact, and they look down more often! Made me wonder why looking someone in the eye was ever uncomfortable anyway. And it seems like a lot of people are uncomfortable with it, and I don't know why. Maybe because it makes us feel self conscious? Like suddenly being in the spot light? I'd love to hear what other people think.
I also believe that this sub, as stated in an earlier post has helped me sideswipe some of my depression symptoms and better deal with them. Any doubting thoughts I'd have would more easily be countered with more confident and positive ones.
My posture is better too. A lot of times I'd find myself slightly hunched over, especially when someone was talking to me, almost like a submissive behavior, or somehow trying to make myself smaller. That's gone now. I stand more straight and look them in the eye.
These changes might seem small, but they really are pretty big when you think about the impact it they have.
I'm still not a perfectly confident person now, but I feel like I've gotten to a point that I'm happy with.
Next program is Sleep Optimizer!!
One thing I've noticed along with everything else, is less inhibition to say what I want to say. And not that I'm less tactful, but before I was almost overly concerned about how I said something might come across. Now I'm less worried about it. It has helped a lot with lessening the need for validation. In speaking my own mind more freely, and not being overly concerned about "how" I say something, that's been huge!! Or, I'll more confidently speak, like my tone is louder. It used to feel so unnatural to speak louder than my normal softer voice, but I'm definitely noticing that I'm louder.....for me! lol, I'm not some loud mouth now, but I probably have a more consistent speaking volume.
Eye contact has changed too. Before I didn't really have a problem looking someone in the eye, but I would look down and around after awhile. Now I've been keeping eye contact, and they look down more often! Made me wonder why looking someone in the eye was ever uncomfortable anyway. And it seems like a lot of people are uncomfortable with it, and I don't know why. Maybe because it makes us feel self conscious? Like suddenly being in the spot light? I'd love to hear what other people think.
I also believe that this sub, as stated in an earlier post has helped me sideswipe some of my depression symptoms and better deal with them. Any doubting thoughts I'd have would more easily be countered with more confident and positive ones.
My posture is better too. A lot of times I'd find myself slightly hunched over, especially when someone was talking to me, almost like a submissive behavior, or somehow trying to make myself smaller. That's gone now. I stand more straight and look them in the eye.
These changes might seem small, but they really are pretty big when you think about the impact it they have.
I'm still not a perfectly confident person now, but I feel like I've gotten to a point that I'm happy with.
Next program is Sleep Optimizer!!
