Shannon, help me ......

[Shannon]

Forget stunting your growth, they'll cause all kinds of more important issues. Try watching people die of cancer and emphysema and see what really matters.

So I got here a little late, but I see that the forum members have added some very good responses, and since that is the case, I'll keep this short for the moment.

First of all, it took me five runs of AM to get to where I am. Granted, it was V1, V2, V3, V4, V5... but still, it was 5 runs, six months a year with six months off to continue developing my growth between each. With issues as deep as you're talking about, it's not going to happen overnight or in a single run. More run throughs are necessary.

That said, I think you'd be better off running something else right now. Either Grow Taller or EHPRA/EHPRA 2.0 (which I am now working on).

Really, it's not about height. Tom Cruise is shorter than I am, and I'm 5'7" tall. Yes, he's famous, yes he's good looking, yes he's wealthy. But if height mattered as much as attitude and action, do you think he'd have gotten wealthy and famous? He's not that good looking. And models are not that short.

Height is not a primary concern. Your primary concern is being healthy internally. Emotionally and mentally. From that, all other things are born. And you have gotten yourself tangled up in a bit of a mess over the years, and now must make some changes.

The good news is, you're aware of the issue and you're ready to make a change! Congratulations, that's a couple of huge positive steps toward achieving your goals. You would not believe how many people I meet who I want to help, but they refuse my help because they either don't want to change and improve, or they are unable to see that they have the issue I want to help them with. Can't help people who aren't ready for it, so I find myself walking away from a lot of people who I might otherwise have been able to help. It astounds me how frequently people refuse my help because they don't want to be helped, when they are clearly miserable and in pain. But hey, their choice.

So once you know there's something wrong, and you're ready to make a change, the next thing to do is to assess the situation, because this next step is critically important. It is perhaps one of the most important steps of all, and it is:

Take personal responsibility.

Not only for what you have done to arrive at your current situation, but for what you are doing now to fix it and what you can do in the future. It's easy and common to lay blame on others for things that have happened, and it's really challenging to suck it up and take responsibility for your actions, beliefs, choices and results. But a mature man does that, and an alpha sure as hell does that. And both of those are very, VERY attractive to women!

Here's what I mean. Look at what you originally posted, and look for where you are placing blame on others. Now look at what happened and ask yourself, "Did I have any other choice to do something other than what I did?"

At first you will want to say, "Of course not!" But if you're truly, deeply honest with yourself, the answer is always, always, always... yes, I had other options. I could have chosen something else.

Take personal responsibility for your part in arriving where you are. Then take personal responsibility for making whatever changes you want and need to take to get to where you want to be.

And take some time to really think about and define where you want to be, because without a definite goal, we just wander aimlessly.

As for looking young, being skinny, and being short, it has never impacted my dealings with women. That's because of the following facts:

1. Any woman who will not give me a chance to prove myself worthy of her time and attention because I am skinny, short or look young, is not a woman who deserves to date me. She is too shallow, and she will automatically and permanently self disqualify by doing that.
   
2. I am commonly perceived to be taller than I actually am, because of how I carry myself, my body language, my attitude and my actions and confidence. When I tell people how tall I am, I commonly hear, "No, you're [2 inches taller], aren't you?"
   
3. I don't care if I date any particular woman. I don't need any particular woman, and in having that be true, I am calm and tranquil and needless around them. They sense that and that automatically opens doors for me because it tells them that I am higher value and that I have my shit together and my bases covered, and I must have other options. Women usually prioritize a man's value over height or looks.
   
4. I am undeterred by a woman's height. In fact, women shorter and smaller than me, or taller than me, are a turn on for me. I go after women a lot taller than me whenever I am interested, and I do it without hesitation. That impresses them because most guys shorter than they are are intimidated. The last one I went after was 6'1" tall and said to me, "You know, if I wasn't already involved, I would go out with you. Your confidence is very attractive."
   

So stop worrying what others think of you, because only betas do that. Decide what you think of you, and everyone else will believe you. That's because others will always follow your lead on what you think of yourself. When a person meets you, they are giving you a test subconsciously. Does s/he tell me how I should perceive him/her, or does s/he ask me what s/he should think of him/herself?

If it's the former, they conclude you're a higher value man and a leader, and they'll believe your self assessment 9 times out of 10. If it's the latter, then they conclude you're insecure and beta, and they judge you negatively and tell you that.

Stop looking to others for what you should think of yourself. That's none of their business. Decide that you're everything you want and need to be for looks, social value, etc. and then make it true internally. That will kill insecurity and neediness, which will jump your attractiveness to women hugely.

I have dated women from 96 pounds and 4'11" tall to 5'11" tall and I plan on dating women taller than that. I think it's really sexy when she's taller than I am. I'm not intimidated, I'm attracted. That's what makes the difference. And I can do that because regardless of what anyone else says, does or thinks, I know without the shadow of a doubt that I am an awesome guy and a great choice for any woman worth my time to date or spend time with. If we're not a match, no loss. If she's not interested., no loss. If she's too shallow to appreciate what I bring to the table, her loss. But it doesn't phase me!

So my advice is, decide between Grow Taller and EHPRA (I would do the latter, if you're 21) and get moving towards fixing what's gotten tangled up inside and becoming the best version of yourself that you can be. The rest will work itself out.