09-15-2015, 12:31 AM
(09-13-2015, 08:46 PM)Shannon Wrote: Stubbornness was something I had to overcome in myself too. Stubbornness is the immature expression of strong will; the mature version is not stubborn, but strong willed. To change one to the other, I first had to define my stubbornness response so that I could recognize it. Then I had to recognize it, which also took some doing, and whenever I caught myself being stubborn, I had to consciously and rationally consider the situation. I found that I was being ridiculous most of the time, and there was nothing lost and no threat to considering the situation before choosing a path of action, so I started doing that. And whenever I started having a stubbornness response, I would consider it and ask, "Why am I responding this way?" Later I came to find out that stubbornness is the use of strong will to keep you safe in a fear response for this personality. I don't have the same type you do, but I definitely have a very strong will.
I guess I "dreamt my best solution" last night based on this. The definition for stubbornness I came up with this morning was "strong will, not exercised in my best self-interest". Consequently, since then I'm noticing myself behaving like a whiny kid, so I guess it's working, lol. I appreciate the input, Shannon, as always! Thanks!
