08-27-2015, 10:07 PM
@CatMan - Ah, seems you're doing great now, awesome! Nothing to solve if there is no problem. About what you wrote earlier, I didn't say I disagreed with you in any way about the content, I just remembered that it sounded like you were emotionally distancing yourself a bit, or taking your distance, from women. I've got similar views.
@Sarge - Yes, I've done it. For a year before subs/AM6 I was going out 2x a week nights and some more during the day. Got laid a ton more back then, but I couldn't be bothered enough atm. I've had times where I attempted to switch from night to daytime, but it never worked out because I don't live in a big-enough city. I was visiting a certain biggger city this summer and it was crazy - I'd go anywhere and, guaranteed, there'd be at least 1 or 2 ultra hotties passing me by. Did approaching there, then came back here and lost momentum in a few days b/c here I might not see anyone truly intriguing in a week. I've done some in-the-moment stuff at the gym, on the street or something during this run, but not much.
Agreed with everyone on the loving live stuff. I've been getting back in to it lately. I'm actually someone who has a pretty long list of hobbies that I've done in the past. When I was still a grad student, It used to be that I'd cramp up my free time with hobbies and I'd see lots of girls at school or at parties, so that wasn't anything special I needed to take care of. Then after graduating, I lost those venues and got more hours of work in a week day. Suddenly I need change hobbies to ones where I might find some women, and put more effort into going out at night. As I said, I'm still not happy with the amount/quality of girls I might meet through hobbies. But I'm sort of letting it go for now and just focusing on me. Actually one of my male friendships is going really well atm, we're having a lot fun when we do something. I'm very lucky to have this great open relationship going, so I haven't had a dry spell in years. Though now I've got to be careful to not get needy, because my income of girls is dried up ftm.
OF sounds good right now. I guess the fastest way to noticeable changes any way. If I can shed some of this negativity, then maybe I can even stand online/tinder better and anyway I'll be free'er from stress & worry --> more energy, more positivity, confidence, all is well. At that point, I'd go with SM3 again.
ION, it surfaced sometimes in the last weeks that I really like myself :) I know it doesn't show here, as this the "analytical me" usually at the forum (and I'm not sure I still like him too much), but the "other me" who's brighter, positive, in the body, louder and smiling a lot, singing, belly laughs - him I like, and others do too. I guess it used to be that he only got out at parties and night time (drunk) in the past, but now its happening more & more during the day as well. Its just that stress, negativity and fear often block him out, still. I do remember that back when I was doing some day game, I'd always feel much free'er the following day or two just walking around in public. That's mostly what the pick up stuff has been about for me, btw.
@Sarge - Yes, I've done it. For a year before subs/AM6 I was going out 2x a week nights and some more during the day. Got laid a ton more back then, but I couldn't be bothered enough atm. I've had times where I attempted to switch from night to daytime, but it never worked out because I don't live in a big-enough city. I was visiting a certain biggger city this summer and it was crazy - I'd go anywhere and, guaranteed, there'd be at least 1 or 2 ultra hotties passing me by. Did approaching there, then came back here and lost momentum in a few days b/c here I might not see anyone truly intriguing in a week. I've done some in-the-moment stuff at the gym, on the street or something during this run, but not much.
Agreed with everyone on the loving live stuff. I've been getting back in to it lately. I'm actually someone who has a pretty long list of hobbies that I've done in the past. When I was still a grad student, It used to be that I'd cramp up my free time with hobbies and I'd see lots of girls at school or at parties, so that wasn't anything special I needed to take care of. Then after graduating, I lost those venues and got more hours of work in a week day. Suddenly I need change hobbies to ones where I might find some women, and put more effort into going out at night. As I said, I'm still not happy with the amount/quality of girls I might meet through hobbies. But I'm sort of letting it go for now and just focusing on me. Actually one of my male friendships is going really well atm, we're having a lot fun when we do something. I'm very lucky to have this great open relationship going, so I haven't had a dry spell in years. Though now I've got to be careful to not get needy, because my income of girls is dried up ftm.
OF sounds good right now. I guess the fastest way to noticeable changes any way. If I can shed some of this negativity, then maybe I can even stand online/tinder better and anyway I'll be free'er from stress & worry --> more energy, more positivity, confidence, all is well. At that point, I'd go with SM3 again.
ION, it surfaced sometimes in the last weeks that I really like myself :) I know it doesn't show here, as this the "analytical me" usually at the forum (and I'm not sure I still like him too much), but the "other me" who's brighter, positive, in the body, louder and smiling a lot, singing, belly laughs - him I like, and others do too. I guess it used to be that he only got out at parties and night time (drunk) in the past, but now its happening more & more during the day as well. Its just that stress, negativity and fear often block him out, still. I do remember that back when I was doing some day game, I'd always feel much free'er the following day or two just walking around in public. That's mostly what the pick up stuff has been about for me, btw.
Thoughts, opinions and beliefs subject to change without prior notice.
