Overcoming Fear 1.1 Journal

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Is this you first sub?

No, its not my first sub

Day 2

Money

One difficult for many people to build real wealth is problem related to survival. The fear to lose it all, followed by a certain death.

When I use releasing method such as the Sedona method or even EFT. These deep fears always come up but I always had a hard time to let them go. There is a childish desire to be protected by fear and that the alternative is much worse.
Anyway, to tackle this fear, I decided to work with the OF sub. Thats one more tool in the arsenal. I don't think, I can make much progress with such a fear.

Be happy beforehand and the world will magnify your happiness.
The only secret of success is: Be successful before the world proves you that you are successful. frederick Dodson - Prosperity Consciousness

Women

It is my belief that you do not attract what you hate or fear. I have done so-so to OK, attracting women. But, I'm sure I could do much better. Last year, I did an experiment and I did releasing on a statement about sending love to women.

It was very hard because there was really a lot of fear, disapproval and hatred. But after intense sessions, it finally worked for just one day, I was totally glowing with love toward women. It felt very intense. There was no attachment , lust, no desire in it. It was pure. It felt like my whole body was in a state of orgasm and joy although it was not sexual in nature.

During that particular day, girls I haven't heard from years contacted me.
One girl I havent heard since 2012 posted on my Facebook wall a pic where we are together in Benidorm.
Another girl, I havent heard since 2011 !! contacted me on Twitter to excuse herself back in 2011, I was supposed to go to Barcelona with her on holiday but suddenly she disappear without a trace.
2 more girls, I havent heard since 2010 I added me on LinkedIn.

Another one, invited me to stay with her family in Southern France. I accepted that offer and within days I was there in France with her.

Overtime fear and disapproval came back, AM6 does little in that department. Right now, I'm still releasing with a similar statement to appreciate and love women however 'fear/hate' is the biggest block and its hard to get around it. I started to use OF yesterday, I hope it does help with all of this.

I really like this post from a guy called Jake, he came to similar conclusion than I.

What image pops in your mind when someone says the word "Women"?

I know for me personally, being that i spent a solid 4 years engrossed in the ideas of the community before deciding to step away from that area and I'm sure most of my readers from that background can relate to this, the image that popped into my head for a long long time, was a very negative one.

This is understandable. We are constantly bombarded by negative images from the media, whether it be movies, TV, magazines and other formats that to "some" degree, women either do not like men, dislike male attention, are uninterested in meeting new people or are taken. In the community, though I do not frequently read any information anymore that comes out of that venue, but back in the day I can remember one of the biggest images/beliefs that I had installed in my mind was the idea of "pussy power". What this was, it was the belief that women flaunted their sexuality in order to manipulate or control men, and all they wanted was control and weren't interested in friendships, sex, relationships, or anything natural/human. I mean looking back on it, it's pretty laughable, but the mind is an interesting thing, and being that I was young and unable to distinguish (come up with my own opinion) I just accepted well if this guy says it's so, and he's an expert, well it must be so.

Well it didn't take long for me to start finding evidence to support that belief, and if anyone has heard any of my interviews, I unfortunately (or maybe I should say fortunately, looking at the long term effects) created a reality, or found myself in circumstances that would prove those beliefs.

This is probably one of the biggest issues, if not the biggest issue when it comes to guys having difficulties in this area. It's just simply having a negative image or belief structure about the opposite sex.

Here's the thing, as long as you have a negative image in your mind of women, well subconsciously women are going to pick up on that.

Or if you want to take it further, as long as your holding a negative image in your mind of women you're going to keep creating that in your experience or you're going to keep dreaming up experiences that correlate to that image.

So how do you knock it out? Well you just let it go that's all. When I first figured this out, I just simply wanted to be happy with myself and my life, so I just changed what these circumstances meant to me. From that point on, I was no longer holding a negative image in my mind that brought up the thoughts "There is something wrong with me." or "I'm not good enough." and instead made it mean, "I'm awesome". You can do it that way.

Another way is just let it go, let go of the ill emotions, as in just accept it. Hold the image in mind and keep accepting it over and over and over again until the image changes. If you no longer have negative emotions towards it, well the image has to change. I'm a big fan Lester Levenson and Larry Crane, and one of the techniques Larry Crane uses is he just says to let go of any dissapproval towards women and give them approval, and eventually instead of the negative image, you'll see them either smiling and being happy. That's a great technique as well.

Another way you could do it is just by using affirmations. "I absolutely love women and everything about them, and they absolutely and unconditionally love me." or something along those lines.

Because, I use Sedona style statement , the statement I use is simpler and shorter:

"I allow myself to deeply love women"