(08-25-2015, 04:57 AM)Shin Wrote: Is this you first sub?

Quote:Be happy beforehand and the world will magnify your happiness.
The only secret of success is: Be successful before the world proves you that you are successful. frederick Dodson - Prosperity Consciousness

Quote:What image pops in your mind when someone says the word "Women"?

I know for me personally, being that i spent a solid 4 years engrossed in the ideas of the community before deciding to step away from that area and I'm sure most of my readers from that background can relate to this, the image that popped into my head for a long long time, was a very negative one.

This is understandable. We are constantly bombarded by negative images from the media, whether it be movies, TV, magazines and other formats that to "some" degree, women either do not like men, dislike male attention, are uninterested in meeting new people or are taken. In the community, though I do not frequently read any information anymore that comes out of that venue, but back in the day I can remember one of the biggest images/beliefs that I had installed in my mind was the idea of "pussy power". What this was, it was the belief that women flaunted their sexuality in order to manipulate or control men, and all they wanted was control and weren't interested in friendships, sex, relationships, or anything natural/human. I mean looking back on it, it's pretty laughable, but the mind is an interesting thing, and being that I was young and unable to distinguish (come up with my own opinion) I just accepted well if this guy says it's so, and he's an expert, well it must be so.

Well it didn't take long for me to start finding evidence to support that belief, and if anyone has heard any of my interviews, I unfortunately (or maybe I should say fortunately, looking at the long term effects) created a reality, or found myself in circumstances that would prove those beliefs.

This is probably one of the biggest issues, if not the biggest issue when it comes to guys having difficulties in this area. It's just simply having a negative image or belief structure about the opposite sex.

Here's the thing, as long as you have a negative image in your mind of women, well subconsciously women are going to pick up on that.

Or if you want to take it further, as long as your holding a negative image in your mind of women you're going to keep creating that in your experience or you're going to keep dreaming up experiences that correlate to that image.

So how do you knock it out? Well you just let it go that's all. When I first figured this out, I just simply wanted to be happy with myself and my life, so I just changed what these circumstances meant to me. From that point on, I was no longer holding a negative image in my mind that brought up the thoughts "There is something wrong with me." or "I'm not good enough." and instead made it mean, "I'm awesome". You can do it that way.

Another way is just let it go, let go of the ill emotions, as in just accept it. Hold the image in mind and keep accepting it over and over and over again until the image changes. If you no longer have negative emotions towards it, well the image has to change. I'm a big fan Lester Levenson and Larry Crane, and one of the techniques Larry Crane uses is he just says to let go of any dissapproval towards women and give them approval, and eventually instead of the negative image, you'll see them either smiling and being happy. That's a great technique as well.

Another way you could do it is just by using affirmations. "I absolutely love women and everything about them, and they absolutely and unconditionally love me." or something along those lines.

(08-28-2015, 11:50 AM)SurferJoy Wrote: Day 4

I had a string of nightmares last night, all charged with fear and anxieties hehehe

Today, I noticed some results from my releasing on negativity toward women and even toward myself.

I had a sense of safety about my future. I had also a lot less the feeling of being excluded.
During certain moments, I had burst of appreciation toward some of my female friends.
When I walked in the street, I felt more present and relaxed.

Usually in the past, when I work with the Goal process from the Sedona Method, it takes about 45 to 60 days to see real solid changes.


I remember back in 2012, I worked with the affirmation "I allow myself to be able to seduce any girl I want"
It worked great, It got me girls that are still in my life to this day.

But I realized that a seducer lifestyle its not what I wanted....
I remember I approached these 2 Australian students. It was easy to charm and entertain them. But, deep down, I didn't like these girls.
It was like being a PUA. Many PUAs don't like women and they end up feeling depressed and resentful.

What the affirmation did for me, it created a reality where I was able to easily approach any girls I wanted regardless of my mood.
I approached many girls in the streets, bars and clubs etc....
It was easy but eventually deep down I still had a lot of negativity and disapproval.
At one point, one of my friend challenged me to approach a "total 10" in a club. He chooses the girl for me. I did approach her and to my surprise it worked great, she was initially even more attracted to me than I was to her. We stayed in contact for a month or so, but alas my negativity got the best of me.

I have no idea what will be the outside result of the affirmation I'm currently using. It is really a surprise journey, we will see

(09-01-2015, 05:16 PM)koshas Wrote:

(08-28-2015, 11:50 AM)SurferJoy Wrote: Day 4

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I have no idea what will be the outside result of the affirmation I'm currently using. It is really a surprise journey, we will see

I am struggling with this same issue with negativity towards women.its more of subconscious beliefs.and some rather messed up life experiences.it has gotten a lot better since I started this sub journey ,but I am not where I want to be yet.

(09-02-2015, 09:07 PM)koshas Wrote: My sub history is am5-Ephra-am6-currently on stage 3 wm2