In3deeps's Quest to Attract His Perfect Wife

[in3deep]

I met my perfect lover two years before we started sleeping together, and had no idea she was ever going to be that to me. In fact we didn't even talk for the first two months after we met. So you might have met her years back and don't even know it yet. The potential people have is not always what we look for.

this quote reminds meof my situation

after running this sub... i got a new job n some girl who i had a major crush on previously was working there... after being out of touch for 2 years suddenly we were back in touch... even thought i had gotten over her

led me to have some hope that the sub was making her come into my life again... somehow i developed some minor feelings and this week found out that she just got attached with someone else

so im abit down now... its like the set n forget method let me to be in contact with this lady and i assumed it was due to the sub... developed some feelings and realise shes not the one... now im abit unsure how to have it be set and forget

You are looking for the end goal, and almost certainly derailing your success by trying to consciously interfere in and steer the process by having expectations, being too invested in the outcome and allowing that to influence what and how you do things.

Set it and forget it requires that you stop worrying about it. I know the sub is working for me, and while it does, IDGAF because I have other things to take care of. The secret to success in this is getting out of your own way. IDGAF. In fact the need for a wife with this sort of response reveals that you are probably repelling your success with your neediness. Women run from neediness.

When I first met my perfect lover, she friend zoned me. Why? Well first, I was taken, but with her history that would not have stopped her had she really wanted me. Second, she later told me that I was "too much of a nice guy". When a couple years later I used AM 1.0 and kicked my GF to the curb for being a variety of things I won't specify that were no longer tolerable to me, my perfect lover saw this and stepped forward to fill her shoes. She called me, asked me out, and then at the end of our date, actively initiated some rather incredible sex with me. When I later found out that she had originally friend zoned me, I asked what had changed. "You did," she said. "You stopped being a nice guy."

Translation: You changed yourself into someone I was attracted to.

Maybe she is your perfect wife, but you just have not become what she is attracted to yet? Maybe she is waiting for you to outgrow the neediness? Or maybe she's not the one. In none of these cases does it matter. What matters is, you are in your own way, and you can't blame the program for failure if that's why it fails. So set it and forget it.

Neediness and desperation are a killer for women's attraction. So if you want a good shot at success, relax and let go and let the program do it's thing without interfering. Set it and forget it. Stop looking for her, and stop trying so hard. If you let it, and the external variables are right, everything will be done for you. Set it and forget it. Live your life, do your thing, and let your subconscious mind handle the rest. Remember that it is you. You can trust yourself. Just let it do what it's trying to do. Set it and forget it.

thanks shannon.. i do get what you are trying to say in theory

but in reality its abit hard.. cause i assume even when the sub bring the perfect person into your life... theres the process inbetween where u have to invest in emotionally such as thinking of wooing her and asking her out into dates etc before a relationship starts

if u don't do the above, the perfect person might never start a relationship with you... and you have the catch 22 situation where you dun know if the person whose in your life is the perfect person and u start emotionally investing thinking shes the one only to get hurt later finding out that shes not the one

so i think its hard to not emotionally invest when u have to take steps to go thru the wooing/dating process etc... having a IDGAF attitude only works if the girl is going to be taking all the initiative