09-12-2014, 04:01 AM
It's hard to say really. I think at my first round i wasn't really 'with it' or nearly as aware.
My feeling is that this hasn't 'normalised' me as such but has equipped me with attitudes for the road ahead. My desire is to face my problems and fears head on, to take pleasure in them, laughing at them/not taking them too serioiusly whilst paradoxically working seriously to move beyond them.
What i lack is the drive, the fire in the belly to do this. that's my challenge now.
roughly following from this and slightly tangential. I met a guy last night who was totally stuck in his life, the man is literally addicted to childrens computer games (not even call of duty) and kept telling me that he 'couldn't be bothered to change', that he was 'happy the way he is', and kept making excuses about why he didn't need to do what others did. I think if i were in his situation (and before my first run of am6 i almost was - albeit without the computer games - my addictions were not so much better, sitting around eating carbs and watching box sets!) I would need some serious pain in order to jolt me out of it as a motivational tool.
So pain is what i'm pursuing in a slightly wierd way.
the problem with pain is that it has diminishing returns, there's only so much you can beat a horse before it basically dies, and for me i beat myself so much that i just hated myself. I'm not going down that route now. meeting a few people in the pick up community just made me feel that picking a goal, whatever it is, whether it's picking up girls or building a business or becoming like the greatest chef who ever lived, and committing to it is the key to over coming this. being clear and singular in this gives you the 'right-kind' of pain motivation.
by right pain i mean, you suffer because you're not meeting your mark and you're pushing yourself to meet it. you might be approaching girls, or getting dissed by girls and you're rasing insecurities to over come. under performing at work because you don't have your fitness together so your focus is off but you just try and set little daily goals.
bad pain is just self loathing, telling yourself you're a peace of shit. when really you're actually awesome for facing this crap (and it's almost beyond doubt that very few people do face it)
I don't know how to do pleasure motivation. doesn't work for me really, but i do feel it on the other side of growth - and that's not so much pleasure as it is happiness.
My feeling is that this hasn't 'normalised' me as such but has equipped me with attitudes for the road ahead. My desire is to face my problems and fears head on, to take pleasure in them, laughing at them/not taking them too serioiusly whilst paradoxically working seriously to move beyond them.
What i lack is the drive, the fire in the belly to do this. that's my challenge now.
roughly following from this and slightly tangential. I met a guy last night who was totally stuck in his life, the man is literally addicted to childrens computer games (not even call of duty) and kept telling me that he 'couldn't be bothered to change', that he was 'happy the way he is', and kept making excuses about why he didn't need to do what others did. I think if i were in his situation (and before my first run of am6 i almost was - albeit without the computer games - my addictions were not so much better, sitting around eating carbs and watching box sets!) I would need some serious pain in order to jolt me out of it as a motivational tool.
So pain is what i'm pursuing in a slightly wierd way.
the problem with pain is that it has diminishing returns, there's only so much you can beat a horse before it basically dies, and for me i beat myself so much that i just hated myself. I'm not going down that route now. meeting a few people in the pick up community just made me feel that picking a goal, whatever it is, whether it's picking up girls or building a business or becoming like the greatest chef who ever lived, and committing to it is the key to over coming this. being clear and singular in this gives you the 'right-kind' of pain motivation.
by right pain i mean, you suffer because you're not meeting your mark and you're pushing yourself to meet it. you might be approaching girls, or getting dissed by girls and you're rasing insecurities to over come. under performing at work because you don't have your fitness together so your focus is off but you just try and set little daily goals.
bad pain is just self loathing, telling yourself you're a peace of shit. when really you're actually awesome for facing this crap (and it's almost beyond doubt that very few people do face it)
I don't know how to do pleasure motivation. doesn't work for me really, but i do feel it on the other side of growth - and that's not so much pleasure as it is happiness.
Your task is not to seek for Love, but merely to seek and find all the barriers within yourself that you have built against it.
