01-15-2014, 09:35 PM
Quote, I don't know if it's too late for my input to be worth anything, but I would like to suggest that it would be best for you to get your friend alone, in private (perhaps over lunch) and approach it in one of two ways.
Approach #1. You tell her you have a friend you realize you have wronged, and that you need her help with knowing how to make it right. Tell her how you feel about the whole thing, and why this is important to you. Tell her your concerns about damaging the friendship, etc. Tell her why you want to make amends and how your personal changes have brought this about. Then gradually feed her enough information that when you genuinely and sincerely tell her that this friend is her, and apologize and ask how to make it right, she won't be surprised.
This approach is useful if she would react best to this if she understood all the background first.
Approach #2. Again get her alone, perhaps at lunch, and explain that you have been working on improving yourself as a person for some time now, and while doing so you have come to realize that there is something you need to apologize to her for and make right, and that you have been worried that doing so might damage your relationship with her. Tell her that her friendship is very important to you, and in part because of that fact, you have concluded that the best way to handle it is to try to make amends regardless. Then remind her of the situation, and genuinely and sincerely apologize and ask how you can make it right.
The growth you have experienced is very likely to be permanent. Growth along those lines from AM/AF usually is.
Approach #1. You tell her you have a friend you realize you have wronged, and that you need her help with knowing how to make it right. Tell her how you feel about the whole thing, and why this is important to you. Tell her your concerns about damaging the friendship, etc. Tell her why you want to make amends and how your personal changes have brought this about. Then gradually feed her enough information that when you genuinely and sincerely tell her that this friend is her, and apologize and ask how to make it right, she won't be surprised.
This approach is useful if she would react best to this if she understood all the background first.
Approach #2. Again get her alone, perhaps at lunch, and explain that you have been working on improving yourself as a person for some time now, and while doing so you have come to realize that there is something you need to apologize to her for and make right, and that you have been worried that doing so might damage your relationship with her. Tell her that her friendship is very important to you, and in part because of that fact, you have concluded that the best way to handle it is to try to make amends regardless. Then remind her of the situation, and genuinely and sincerely apologize and ask how you can make it right.
The growth you have experienced is very likely to be permanent. Growth along those lines from AM/AF usually is.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
