(09-28-2010, 05:19 AM)spiralout1988 Wrote: I'm glad you saw your own potential. You are doing something about it which alot of people don't. They can't admit that they or wrong or they have problems and I can't help but feel sorry for those people. You are doing your self a huge HUGE favor. I'm happy for you, Jay. Good Luck on your transformation!
Thanks for your comment, it means a lot
(09-28-2010, 05:32 AM)Ryan Wrote: You know I went through the same exact thing. Moving around at a young age, especially in High School, can be a hard thing for a lot of kids (especially kids who are already shy). My parents also had a huge impact on that, a lot of negative thinking with them. Especially my mom, always a cautious person she always drilled it into my head, I cannot do that, don't get your hopes up, it's not going to happen. My Dad is more of a dominate guy who always had to have everything revolve around him. I carried around the same beliefs and I'm actually noticing they are being taken care of, at least, the majority have vanished in the past 2 weeks since switching to Alpha Male.
I know exactly what you're talking about, I already was a bit shy and introverted when I was kid. And whenever I could muster up a bit of courage to get out of my comfort zone, I would proudly announce it and then I would have my mother reinforcing the same crap your mother told you. Everything I ever did as a hobby or something that I was proud off was deemed worthless by her, because in retrospect it didn't have anything to do with her.
When your parents suck all the attention away from you, and make it seem that the world revolves around them, it doesn't really help to think independently, being assertive or being reliant on yourself, let alone build a sense of self-worth because you always have a stronger tendency to expect a negative outcome from your own actions, so you just do nothing and be passive about every decision so you won't have to receive any criticism. Or you just leave actions to others because you already know for yourself that whatever you do, the next person can undoubtedly will do it better than you ever could. It's bullshlt.
I think that the Alpha Male will serve as a great aid for us in fully flipping that script into making yourself the authority, and cutting loose from external validation so that you can find things out for your own without the need to emphasize negative reinforcement when you do happen to fail at something, and just keep going until you succeed (or just get sick of it
). Also I noticed that depression really makes you think in absolutes (win/lose all or nothing deals) and I hope that this will also will be dealt with the AM program. I'm glad that AM is already showing promise in your situation, enjoy it, it can only get better from here
Regarding Stop and Reverse Hair Loss; Maybe I’m just fooling myself, but I have been feeling really tiny soft hairs all over the parts that show male pattern baldness for the last couple of days. Wasn't sure to post about it here yet. The question that I’m constantly asking myself is “Did I already have this before?”, because I really don’t know if I had them already, and perhaps didn't notice it. I only have about a month of exposure to this sub, and not in the best circumstances (still at least 6 hours of exposure time per day though). I could swear that it was just purely skin there, but I will notice it will grow further with time, or just stays that way… will certainly keep you posted about it.
