09-22-2013, 06:26 PM
welcome the feelings means instead of suppressing the sadness/grief/shame/fear try to deliberately experience it stronger and sustain it for a period of time (5 minutes, 10, 20, whatever.) the same way you can bottle things, you can bring them up. i'm not talking hours here, just as long as you want to. most people have a bad mood or muscle tension linger for hours, days, and sometimes years because they don't want to actually feel the bad feeling for 5 minutes, 20, an hour, or however long it needs to be there. our society conditions men to repress things that end up going into muscle tension and staying around forever..it's some toxic shit.
Shannon's subs are great because as they encourage positive change, the negative emotions that might contradict that change are forced to come up. instead of suppressing them back down, try to feel them in your mind and body and accept them somehow so they dissipate. to your point, breathing helps, for sure, and changing how you relate to yourself and your own feelings.
if you really want to develop the habit, do it while you're going somewhere. now when I go somewhere (taxi, subway, walking, etc.) and i'm by myself i'll try to scan for negative feelings and bring them up. am I sad, angry, ashamed, i'll try to feel it for 5-10 minutes to detox them. as a recovering repressive, as some others here seem to be, it's really necessary.
not sure i'm making sense here..tell me how this sounds.
Shannon's subs are great because as they encourage positive change, the negative emotions that might contradict that change are forced to come up. instead of suppressing them back down, try to feel them in your mind and body and accept them somehow so they dissipate. to your point, breathing helps, for sure, and changing how you relate to yourself and your own feelings.
if you really want to develop the habit, do it while you're going somewhere. now when I go somewhere (taxi, subway, walking, etc.) and i'm by myself i'll try to scan for negative feelings and bring them up. am I sad, angry, ashamed, i'll try to feel it for 5-10 minutes to detox them. as a recovering repressive, as some others here seem to be, it's really necessary.
not sure i'm making sense here..tell me how this sounds.
