07-10-2013, 08:23 AM
(This post was last modified: 07-10-2013, 08:25 AM by LionMonkey.)
DAY 6 - DAYTIME
Today I took my brother and went to an improv class for the first time in my life and his. It was an interesting experience. (I'm only here in Beijing few days more.. I can't believe there's none improv classes in Copenhagen...)
It was really fun and you get out of your comfort zone a lot. The topics were body-language and high/low status. Very interesting and relating things with being great with women.
I learned a lot like and man.. there's a lot of things I related to:
we looked upon a lot of non-verbals:
- Who's got the most status?
- Who reacts more to the other?
It was the person who tried or reacted the most who came off as lower status, so you can't really fake it.
An example of an exercise:
two persons,
first person: hi
second person: hi
first person: have you been waiting long time?
1. two persons had to show the crowd that they were the highest status of those two
2. the same but with lowest status
I learned something very interesting: the person who have had most practice (certain kind of body-langauge as default) with certain kind of status had the easiest time to project that to the crowd, while the ones who had less "practice" with that kind of status had a hard time to do it so it looked more real than the other person.
For example,
We were doing the low status, even though I tried to be as low status I could the person that was naturally low status in his body-language was tied with me (and he didn't even do much).
Another thing I could relate to was, if you already are high-status and you try to convey it more than the other person, you'll become lower status.
And one important thing I noticed more (a bit mixed thoughts with this observation) was: Often times the two persons were tied of either low or high status. My thoughts are that it was because none of the two tried to influence the other but rather tried to do their own act of high or low status (it is very little you get off from only hi and have you been waiting long).
So another key-point: Influence the other persons status (it's harder than you think, try influence a high-status person to a lower status). You have to genuinely be confident and grounded in order to do that for high-status and not seem reaction seeking too.
I can recommend everyone to take improv classes. It's a great way to develop social intuition.
Today I took my brother and went to an improv class for the first time in my life and his. It was an interesting experience. (I'm only here in Beijing few days more.. I can't believe there's none improv classes in Copenhagen...)
It was really fun and you get out of your comfort zone a lot. The topics were body-language and high/low status. Very interesting and relating things with being great with women.
I learned a lot like and man.. there's a lot of things I related to:
we looked upon a lot of non-verbals:
- Who's got the most status?
- Who reacts more to the other?
It was the person who tried or reacted the most who came off as lower status, so you can't really fake it.
An example of an exercise:
two persons,
first person: hi
second person: hi
first person: have you been waiting long time?
1. two persons had to show the crowd that they were the highest status of those two
2. the same but with lowest status
I learned something very interesting: the person who have had most practice (certain kind of body-langauge as default) with certain kind of status had the easiest time to project that to the crowd, while the ones who had less "practice" with that kind of status had a hard time to do it so it looked more real than the other person.
For example,
We were doing the low status, even though I tried to be as low status I could the person that was naturally low status in his body-language was tied with me (and he didn't even do much).
Another thing I could relate to was, if you already are high-status and you try to convey it more than the other person, you'll become lower status.
And one important thing I noticed more (a bit mixed thoughts with this observation) was: Often times the two persons were tied of either low or high status. My thoughts are that it was because none of the two tried to influence the other but rather tried to do their own act of high or low status (it is very little you get off from only hi and have you been waiting long).
So another key-point: Influence the other persons status (it's harder than you think, try influence a high-status person to a lower status). You have to genuinely be confident and grounded in order to do that for high-status and not seem reaction seeking too.
I can recommend everyone to take improv classes. It's a great way to develop social intuition.
1. Do whatever you want.. risk whatever your gut tells you because.. you know you have good intentions.
2. Pressure forms the man.
3. Clarity gives space for better decisions.
