07-06-2013, 01:55 PM
DAY 2 - NIGHTGAME
This night was a rough night. Many things didn't work out and my intent was not very high. Though there were lessons and references.
I would really appreciate feedback, critique or thoughts! I love that kind of stuff and it may also put some things in perspective!
In this post I'll describe in details as much as I remember from the encounters with the German Blonde girl.
I texted the german blonde I met at my hotel a hour later, "Hey xyz, hope you reached your friend safely from the rain ;-) I'm waiting to go out. Shit, this rain is never going to stop! Where are you going?"
As I was waiting for the rain to stop, I fell asleep. The time was 11:30PM.
When I woke up it was 1AM and the german blonde had just texted me,
her: "Where are u? I am at a bar in Sanlitun",
her: "Lets meet"
I replied half an hour later,
me: "I'm soon at Sanlitun let's meet! Where are you now?
15 minutes later
me: "I'm at Nali Patio now! Where are you?
I went to the same bar as yesterday night, except this time I went to their indoor bar, since the rain had closed the rooftop bar.
Met two groups of girls there. I'll come back to all the sets I met after describing the events with the blonde german girl.
her: "At kokomo! It is a rooftop bar."
me: "Where's that?"
me: "Found it now I just need to find out how you get up there!
her: "Can't describe! Just ask somebody?
her: Perfect
her: "We are at the dancefloor"
After 10 minutes I found the entrance and went up to the bar. Looked around for 1 minute got a text from her:
her: "Hej where are u?"
me: "On the roof"
I noticed her with her friend but began to talk to a German brunette instead. Thinking that I would not come on her terms but rather I came because I want to see what's up and that it's cool that she's there too.
So after a few minutes of some self-amusing with the German brunette I saw the blonde girl on the way downstairs with her friend.
I excused myself from the brunette and went over to the blonde.
She was escorting her friend which was very sad because a guy that she's seeing was flirting with other girls.
She began to cry and the blonde helped her out.
I stood and waited for 3-5 minutes and then her friend left.
We greeted with a hug and I took her hand and led the way through the empty bar then she led the way to the roof and said,
her: "let's go and meet my friends"
me: "your friends?"
her: expression of, yeah sort of
me: "alright, lets meet your friends"
It was a group of 3 guys and 1 girl. She introduces me to the Chinese girl in the group.
I greet her and one of the guys with glasses start talking to the blonde. I just stood there and tried to feel and enjoy the vibe. (The Chinese girl eventually walked away and sat at a chair a bit away from the group) I interrupt after a while and greet the guy. Then the blonde goes past us and walk over to another guy from the group sitting with a hat on who hasn't said anything
So I noticed pretty quickly that I was just a piece of puzzle to her. She was onto this guy with the hat.
After a while when the guy ignored the blonde she came to me and said, "
her: "you need to get a drink"
me: "why?"
her: "blablabla"
me: interrupting her "I don't drink"
her: "no?"
me: "only on special occasions
her: "so this is not a special occasion?"
me: "no, I only drink on big events, like new years or good friends birthdays.. maybe at your birthday"
her: laughing and walked back to the guy with the hat.
I removed myself from the group and began meeting girls. (I'll come back to the sets I met)
On my way home 4AM I saw the blonde german girl standing with one of the guys from the group with glasses.
I said hello to them and she was like
her: "ohh hey! are you going back to your hotel?"
me: "yes"
her: "okay I'll come with you"
The guy with the glasses was pretty weird, trying to be seductive and cool but to me it came off as creepy and yeah.. really weird. The only thing that backed him up was him leaning back against a light-pole and probably the mindset of the girl that she wants to find some friends in Beijing since she is staying there for 6 months and had just arrived 2 weeks ago.
This is a 7 minutes walk to our hotel. So I walked in front and she followed. She began to talk about being afraid to cross the traffic.
We did some smalltalk.
After 2 minutes I took her hand and she replied and took mine. There was a bench so I said, "let's sit here for while"
I look down and it's wet, so I say "ahh fuck it.. it's wet".
Still holding hands, I stopped her and went in to kiss her. She looked at me and then was like "noo".
her: "I got a boyfriend"
me: "okay, I don't look for a girlfriend"
she didn't know how to respond to that
As we walk the tension was high. I diffuse the tension by some more smalltalk and joking to make her comfortable since it's very dark and almost no people on the streets. Silence again and she begins to ask me, "so what do you do back in Copenhagen?"
A bit of smalltalk. She said,
her: "so you are going back to your hotel room now where your mom is?"
me: "yep" rolling my eyes and looking like it's a burden
I ask her what she's doing tomorrow, she doesn't know, maybe some fitness. Asks me what my plans are, I don't know either, probably go to some cafés and stuff.
her: "well text me to hang out if you want"
I took it as a sign of interest.
Then I went in for the kiss again but she says no again but not in a serious way, so I saw it much like token resistance. (Everything I did was not in a serious manner)
me: "I don't understand why"
her: "because I got a boyfriend"
me: "and I told you I'm not looking for a girlfriend"
We walked and she walked with a faster pace than before. There were silence as we walked and she says, "
her: "there are so many girls you can kiss out there. you are a good-looking guy"
me: "I know"
her: "you know.." and looks at me a bit like "you are arrogant"
me: "yeah I've heard it a lot of times"
me: "there's no reason not to kiss me then"
and went in to kiss again.
but she avoided and said, "no" but not in a serious tone.
So I persisted a bit with,
"you make me sad! come here and give me a kiss" but to no help. The frame was set and I didn't know how to change that around. I tried to rely on persistency.
We were now entering our hotel and I tried one last time to kiss but no.
We enter the lobby, I tell her as I walk towards my side of the hotel,
me: "I'm going sad to bed and you are break my heart"
her: "sleep tight"
LESSON: Do not do anything on the girls terms. It makes you seem like a lower value guy.
I'll write a post about the sets I did this night when I have time tomorrow
This night was a rough night. Many things didn't work out and my intent was not very high. Though there were lessons and references.
I would really appreciate feedback, critique or thoughts! I love that kind of stuff and it may also put some things in perspective!
In this post I'll describe in details as much as I remember from the encounters with the German Blonde girl.
I texted the german blonde I met at my hotel a hour later, "Hey xyz, hope you reached your friend safely from the rain ;-) I'm waiting to go out. Shit, this rain is never going to stop! Where are you going?"
As I was waiting for the rain to stop, I fell asleep. The time was 11:30PM.
When I woke up it was 1AM and the german blonde had just texted me,
her: "Where are u? I am at a bar in Sanlitun",
her: "Lets meet"
I replied half an hour later,
me: "I'm soon at Sanlitun let's meet! Where are you now?
15 minutes later
me: "I'm at Nali Patio now! Where are you?
I went to the same bar as yesterday night, except this time I went to their indoor bar, since the rain had closed the rooftop bar.
Met two groups of girls there. I'll come back to all the sets I met after describing the events with the blonde german girl.
her: "At kokomo! It is a rooftop bar."
me: "Where's that?"
me: "Found it now I just need to find out how you get up there!
her: "Can't describe! Just ask somebody?
her: Perfect
her: "We are at the dancefloor"
After 10 minutes I found the entrance and went up to the bar. Looked around for 1 minute got a text from her:
her: "Hej where are u?"
me: "On the roof"
I noticed her with her friend but began to talk to a German brunette instead. Thinking that I would not come on her terms but rather I came because I want to see what's up and that it's cool that she's there too.
So after a few minutes of some self-amusing with the German brunette I saw the blonde girl on the way downstairs with her friend.
I excused myself from the brunette and went over to the blonde.
She was escorting her friend which was very sad because a guy that she's seeing was flirting with other girls.
She began to cry and the blonde helped her out.
I stood and waited for 3-5 minutes and then her friend left.
We greeted with a hug and I took her hand and led the way through the empty bar then she led the way to the roof and said,
her: "let's go and meet my friends"
me: "your friends?"
her: expression of, yeah sort of
me: "alright, lets meet your friends"
It was a group of 3 guys and 1 girl. She introduces me to the Chinese girl in the group.
I greet her and one of the guys with glasses start talking to the blonde. I just stood there and tried to feel and enjoy the vibe. (The Chinese girl eventually walked away and sat at a chair a bit away from the group) I interrupt after a while and greet the guy. Then the blonde goes past us and walk over to another guy from the group sitting with a hat on who hasn't said anything
So I noticed pretty quickly that I was just a piece of puzzle to her. She was onto this guy with the hat.
After a while when the guy ignored the blonde she came to me and said, "
her: "you need to get a drink"
me: "why?"
her: "blablabla"
me: interrupting her "I don't drink"
her: "no?"
me: "only on special occasions
her: "so this is not a special occasion?"
me: "no, I only drink on big events, like new years or good friends birthdays.. maybe at your birthday"
her: laughing and walked back to the guy with the hat.
I removed myself from the group and began meeting girls. (I'll come back to the sets I met)
On my way home 4AM I saw the blonde german girl standing with one of the guys from the group with glasses.
I said hello to them and she was like
her: "ohh hey! are you going back to your hotel?"
me: "yes"
her: "okay I'll come with you"
The guy with the glasses was pretty weird, trying to be seductive and cool but to me it came off as creepy and yeah.. really weird. The only thing that backed him up was him leaning back against a light-pole and probably the mindset of the girl that she wants to find some friends in Beijing since she is staying there for 6 months and had just arrived 2 weeks ago.
This is a 7 minutes walk to our hotel. So I walked in front and she followed. She began to talk about being afraid to cross the traffic.
We did some smalltalk.
After 2 minutes I took her hand and she replied and took mine. There was a bench so I said, "let's sit here for while"
I look down and it's wet, so I say "ahh fuck it.. it's wet".
Still holding hands, I stopped her and went in to kiss her. She looked at me and then was like "noo".
her: "I got a boyfriend"
me: "okay, I don't look for a girlfriend"
she didn't know how to respond to that
As we walk the tension was high. I diffuse the tension by some more smalltalk and joking to make her comfortable since it's very dark and almost no people on the streets. Silence again and she begins to ask me, "so what do you do back in Copenhagen?"
A bit of smalltalk. She said,
her: "so you are going back to your hotel room now where your mom is?"
me: "yep" rolling my eyes and looking like it's a burden
I ask her what she's doing tomorrow, she doesn't know, maybe some fitness. Asks me what my plans are, I don't know either, probably go to some cafés and stuff.
her: "well text me to hang out if you want"
I took it as a sign of interest.
Then I went in for the kiss again but she says no again but not in a serious way, so I saw it much like token resistance. (Everything I did was not in a serious manner)
me: "I don't understand why"
her: "because I got a boyfriend"
me: "and I told you I'm not looking for a girlfriend"
We walked and she walked with a faster pace than before. There were silence as we walked and she says, "
her: "there are so many girls you can kiss out there. you are a good-looking guy"
me: "I know"
her: "you know.." and looks at me a bit like "you are arrogant"
me: "yeah I've heard it a lot of times"
me: "there's no reason not to kiss me then"
and went in to kiss again.
but she avoided and said, "no" but not in a serious tone.
So I persisted a bit with,
"you make me sad! come here and give me a kiss" but to no help. The frame was set and I didn't know how to change that around. I tried to rely on persistency.
We were now entering our hotel and I tried one last time to kiss but no.
We enter the lobby, I tell her as I walk towards my side of the hotel,
me: "I'm going sad to bed and you are break my heart"
her: "sleep tight"
LESSON: Do not do anything on the girls terms. It makes you seem like a lower value guy.
I'll write a post about the sets I did this night when I have time tomorrow
1. Do whatever you want.. risk whatever your gut tells you because.. you know you have good intentions.
2. Pressure forms the man.
3. Clarity gives space for better decisions.
