07-05-2013, 02:41 PM
(07-05-2013, 12:08 PM)Shannon Wrote: I would say that the chemistry you refer to is not love, but how the brain translates the emotion into the physical world. Thinking that emotions are chemical reactions is going to lead you down the path to disregarding their validity in and of themselves, which is also very dangerous and potentially destructive.
I would also say that when you do things the right way, you don't have to sneak around behind people's backs to do it. But I suspect you are going to have to learn that the hard way. Just like I did.
Well, as for the "love" thing, I got messed up with that thing a long time ago. It's taken me years to get over "loving" a girl when it was just a childish reaction to a traumatic event. I'm sure you can understand what with how the mind is so complicated that it can do some strange things, and we can end up in some strange places in our heads. I'm just grateful I figured it out a few years ago, lest I be clinging to a childhood crush for my whole life!
What advice would you give then? I mean, I can't just ignore people anymore (in fact, it's getting to the point where I'm almost gonna start running into the streets just chatting up strangers like a crazy person. I assume because of AM) and I don't want to say "no" to my desires any more.
Let's say I know a woman in a relationship along with a ton of other women who are single, married, what have you. I have no problems with having sex and (possibly) relationships with all the single women. But if I tell myself "no" just because someone's got a piece of metal on their finger, I think I'll be denying what I believe to be the truth. I do believe humans are polygamous. I've read about how the earliest humans are documented as having communal children, and besides that, I've believed this since I was 6 years old. I've never been around polygamy, nor have I ever known anyone who accepted it, and my parents tried their damndest to beat that idea out of me (religion >>). But I never lost that feeling. Never understood why people couldn't just love one another. If there's one thing I'd change in the world it would be people's (and my own) insecurity that they will somehow lose something if the person they love also loves somebody else.
I believe it's just the way we are. We aren't meant to make our infinite hearts finite, which is what the idea of "love" and, certainly, monogamy does.
But I'm running off on a tangent. Maybe if you shared a story? You said you learned the hard way...
