Overcome Fear, Guilt, and Shame

[mat422]

Don't get me wrong I'd like some women in my life. But as of right now I feel like it would be more of a distraction. I'm trying to really build myself up more and get my life sorted out.

If you haven't run through alpha yet you'll pretty much give off that magnetic vibe. There's definitely a huge difference between learning about how an alpha male behaves and looks vs being that alpha male and doing it all automatically. It's actually been a while since I ran alpha male, but when I felt that, it's really empowering to know on a subconscious level.

Wow, you made some huge improvements with that sub. I'm kind of jealous haha. I don't know if you've heard Shannon talk about resistance and stuff, but I tend to be highly resistant to subliminals, so change comes a bit slower for me. But man, 21 days and you feel that good is great.

I'm using the overcome fear sub to just overcome fear I guess haha. It's like an invisible barrier that keeps me in place. For some reason pushing past my boundaries or comfort zone never resulted in changes for me. Sometimes it even made things worse. So I'm trying to destroy that fear inside of me so I can actually live my life. It's definitely been rough with this sub, but I feel like I'm moving away from the fear more and more.

My career aspirations are on hold. I'm just trying to find any sort of job to support myself and move on from there. I'm a bit of a wandering soul, not really knowing where to go in life and just searching for some answers. I've just had a lot on my mind so it's been overwhelming and I feel like some of my judgement has been clouded. I guess my goal is more self growth because from there I find that a lot more paths open up in my own life that I couldn't see before. Sorry for the vague answer haha, but I'm not exactly sure of my path in life.

I know exactly what you mean, relationship is a distraction until everything else is in order.
But i just recently thought about it, and if i start thinking like that, then im going to be ready for a relationship somewhere around 30 years old. Thats when the career will be in full swing and everything.
But thats just missing out on your youth, i changed my thinking because of that. I use to think like you think but i realized i dont want to miss out on dating 18-23 year olds you know? Every age has its pluses and i dont want to be 30 and only be able to date 25 year olds at the youngest, that would make me real sad. I want to have my share of every age.
In the end all you have is memories.
Dont you think it would be sad to miss out on girls your age, years down the road? Heartbreaking for me, that was an epiphany for me, i stopped thinking i would wait until everything is perfect and just live in the moment. The next day i went to the gym with that attitude, "i want a girl now", i met this pretty young thing because i noticed she was staring me down non stop,and that when things started to change, i made myself approachable and just met new girls, disregarding financial status. Before the epiphany i was single for 3 years because i though like that. Bro your life will never be perfect, work with what you have
Of course run through OF a couple times first lol. Just in case.

I think of it like this, if you read up on Alpha Males and know how to be one EXACTLY, study it to the detail, then when you run the Alpha Male sub, your subconscious will know exactly what to change to the detail. If you kind of know what it means, the results wont be as pronounced. Same with confidence and everything else. I read up exactly what it means to be confident, not just what i know. It definitely helped.
Could be one of the reasons why i respond so well to Asc, i did have some resistance a week into it but it cleared at the end of week 2.
At one point about 10 days in, i had alot of negative thinking coming out, what was wrong with me exactly and how i have to change it, it was so bad all that had to happen is one person doing some gesture, and that would make me so unconfident for the rest of the day it was crazy.
The negative things that were brought up, helped me realize what i had to change exactly. Small talk had to be improved, etc.

Im giving this sub all i could, listening to 8-10 hours ultrasonic during sleep, and another 6-8 hours on headphones masked. Sometimes i listen to so much i feel like throwing up, so i rest a few hours lol, my brain is working its ass of these days haha i will keep pushing it. Up it to 16 hours if you can, it helps alot.

Yea pushing through boundaries is not my thing either, i cant do it that way. Unless i really have to.
Wow i didnt know it was like that. I have some fear of work, kind of fear where you wonder if you're gonna make it out there. Hard to go to work sometimes.
Would you say you are half way there to remove all fear? At this rate, how many months would you say that will take?

Did you ever want to get a degree in college? Im currently going but i have no clue which career path to take. I was going to be a pharmacist, but realized it was a boring job. Law school sucks. The fire academy has a HUGE line, thousands of people waiting for work. Hospitals are not my cup of tea. I would hate to spend my life there. Dont know what to do, i want to enjoy my job even if it doesnt pay much. So far i found nothing that would pay the bills and support a family while loving to go do that job. Life huh.

Now that you put it that way, it does make me rethink a lot of stuff. I guess I'm just making excuses to avoid relationships. I am a bit of a perfectionist and I've been trying to change that thinking, but it's been tough. Then again being unemployed and not having much money makes it hard to get around where I live. And it's hard to enjoy life sometimes with that constant anxiety hanging over my head. I guess I'm just troubled emotionally and I don't feel like my head is in the right place so it gets hard to actually live in the moment.

I did my fair share of studying and I think you're right it doesn't hurt to know exactly what to expect. It kind of takes that fear of wondering how you will act after it's done. It's probably just me but I have a tendency to think about things too much at times so then I was constantly wondering what alpha behavior is and if I was doing it right. This was a couple years before I ran alpha though, so maybe that's why.

Wow that's a lot of exposure to the sub. I only listen at night, any more than that and I'm so worn out I might develop migraine headaches. If you can handle it more power to you.

I really can't tell if I'm half way there or not it's hard to tell. But I think the more the fear lessens the easier the sub will work. So I had to get past my initial fear block for even allowing these subs to work. I remember how much reluctance I had to even listening to one of the subliminals when I first stumbled upon them. So much fear about changing who I was or that it wasn't natural or it was wrong. Of course it was all just rationalizations by my mind to keep me in place. So I can't really know how long it will take, but so far it's been doing enough to allow me to actually function a lot better so I have more courage to push past the fear. Prior to this it was just this huge monster that beat the crap out of me every day.

I actually went to a community college and got an associates degree is computer security and forensics. But at the time I didn't know what I wanted and just picked something out of fear. I couldn't justify going to a 4 year college and racking up massive student debt. My anxiety and depression just caused too many problems in my life and I'd be even worse off spending all that money when I had no idea what I was doing.

I feel you on the career path thing. Ever since high school it's always been the question what do I want to do with my life or what do I enjoy? People who have got it figured out early are pretty lucky. I think a lot of the mental issues I deal with kind of just destroyed my enjoyment of life. I like making hip hop and electronic music, but it's hard to make a career out of that unless you are really good. If I got good or people liked my stuff I could always sell it online for secondary income, but there's no way I could support myself on that alone. Maybe I'll just do that and work a second job with computers or something.

I mean right now that is my passion, music and I know it always will be. But it's not one of those "follow your dreams" passions, to put all my faith into music would be a really really ignorant thing to do. At the same time people make this huge deal about finding your path in life or that one thing that fulfills you. Maybe it's true for some people and maybe others get that fulfillment from small fragments of different things. Everyone is different and I think the problem is we keep being shoved into these boxes. Some people fit, others don't. But it's such a brute force approach.