03-22-2013, 09:03 PM
(This post was last modified: 03-22-2013, 09:03 PM by LionMonkey.)
Stage 4 - Day 8,
Lately I always end up with two girls and one of them is always one of the hottest in the club.
How does it happen?
Sometimes because I'm extremely relaxed and just enjoying the music, feeling it. Girls respond to the vibe and sees that I am a guy that can have fun for himself and not caring about what others think and be who he wants to be. Suddenly I hit eye-contact with the hot girl and we are naturally drawn to each other.
Does it mean that we are getting together? No. Not at all but it is VERY interesting to see the girls world because when you are with them and you are part of the group, you see how many guys do these lame things and how many guys swarm themselves around them when they just walk a bit out of the group. It's something different seeing it from the groups point of view.
Other times, I just go over to girls and give them value.
How do you give value?
Emotions.
But my main "technique" when I go over to some girls are, "hello.. my name is James" and they almost always respond positively. From there they see you as a genuine guy and then you can have some fun with different emotions, which girls love.
The thing is when you go over like that is, you are just you, there's no trying to gain anything. You are just exploring what might happen.
Do I only approach a group where I find the girls hot? NO. I'm approaching when I feel bored or when I am aware of I am about to get into my head, I tell myself, "Okay, how can I have some fun right now?! How do I crash and burn? How do I get myself in situations where I am exposed?" I see some girls nearby and I say hello.. and to make it even more fun and ridicules I'll howl like a wolf/dog sometimes
The 3 good things about approaching different groups and not only the ones that you think is worthy of your time (get over yourself) is
1. you get better with women, experience will teach you everything
2. that you have fun, your social muscle gets warmed up
3. other girls see you having fun with other girls which signals status
It's like a snowball effect...
After have been in a group with the girls and especially the very hot ones, I see the lamest approaches and guys trying to get validation etc.
My main obstacle is then now, how do I hook up with the hot one? They both like me and see me as a guy of higher value. We are really having fun together and I bring them value.
It goes very well in the beginning but suddenly after 15-30 minutes of interacting, the hot girl loses interest and is not trying to qualify herself anymore. Seeking value other places.
My take is that I gotta make something happen by leading with intent and if that means chaos in the group, even more fun. Hmm.. what I think is holding me back is that I become afraid of loosing the girl. Even though I am not attached I think I am afraid that my suggestion will not be a reality.
Unstepped fears will drain your life slowly!
Lately I always end up with two girls and one of them is always one of the hottest in the club.
How does it happen?
Sometimes because I'm extremely relaxed and just enjoying the music, feeling it. Girls respond to the vibe and sees that I am a guy that can have fun for himself and not caring about what others think and be who he wants to be. Suddenly I hit eye-contact with the hot girl and we are naturally drawn to each other.
Does it mean that we are getting together? No. Not at all but it is VERY interesting to see the girls world because when you are with them and you are part of the group, you see how many guys do these lame things and how many guys swarm themselves around them when they just walk a bit out of the group. It's something different seeing it from the groups point of view.
Other times, I just go over to girls and give them value.
How do you give value?
Emotions.
But my main "technique" when I go over to some girls are, "hello.. my name is James" and they almost always respond positively. From there they see you as a genuine guy and then you can have some fun with different emotions, which girls love.
The thing is when you go over like that is, you are just you, there's no trying to gain anything. You are just exploring what might happen.
Do I only approach a group where I find the girls hot? NO. I'm approaching when I feel bored or when I am aware of I am about to get into my head, I tell myself, "Okay, how can I have some fun right now?! How do I crash and burn? How do I get myself in situations where I am exposed?" I see some girls nearby and I say hello.. and to make it even more fun and ridicules I'll howl like a wolf/dog sometimes
The 3 good things about approaching different groups and not only the ones that you think is worthy of your time (get over yourself) is
1. you get better with women, experience will teach you everything
2. that you have fun, your social muscle gets warmed up
3. other girls see you having fun with other girls which signals status
It's like a snowball effect...
After have been in a group with the girls and especially the very hot ones, I see the lamest approaches and guys trying to get validation etc.
My main obstacle is then now, how do I hook up with the hot one? They both like me and see me as a guy of higher value. We are really having fun together and I bring them value.
It goes very well in the beginning but suddenly after 15-30 minutes of interacting, the hot girl loses interest and is not trying to qualify herself anymore. Seeking value other places.
My take is that I gotta make something happen by leading with intent and if that means chaos in the group, even more fun. Hmm.. what I think is holding me back is that I become afraid of loosing the girl. Even though I am not attached I think I am afraid that my suggestion will not be a reality.
Unstepped fears will drain your life slowly!
1. Do whatever you want.. risk whatever your gut tells you because.. you know you have good intentions.
2. Pressure forms the man.
3. Clarity gives space for better decisions.
