03-17-2013, 09:56 AM
Being this guy who's like a "10".
Went to an average club yesterday night and met three girls I knew from other nights out. They invited me to sit with them at their table, so I thought why not.
I felt very content and felt like I didn't need to prove anything. I socialized with the girls a bit. I talked with the one girl I knew very little who was sitting besides me.
She's ok hot but I wasn't feeling anything about it. I asked her what she likes to do for fun and she replied, "going out" and I said, "yeah.. lots of people like to do that.. is there anything else than going out?" she thought about it for a while and then said, "honestly, there's nothing. I'm just studying, working, going out"
me: "and you are happy with that?"
her:"yes"
Then we talked about reading, what kind of books. After I told her about this interesting new book I was reading she's like, "excuse me" turned and talked with one of the other girls and said, "he's boring" her friend agreed but only because her friend wants me for herself (she's a really jealous type).
Anyways, I was just sitting there and did really nothing to make anything happen. The girl that said I was boring went to another table with a guy and told the two other girls to come with her but they stayed. I never took it further than a bit talking and little physicality. I think the girls wanted me to lead, to make something happen...
In the end they went to the guys table for a last drink before leaving. I sat there by myself, not feeling very bad but definitely not feeling very good about my inaction and not knowing what I wanted...
The whole situation was not in my favor and I took myself too seriously because of thinking like I had to act like a 10 and were probably subconsciously afraid to put myself in a situation where I could be rejected.
Stage 4 - Day 2,
Had a dream where I was fully naked, stood like a model for others to see. The girls I met yesterday was there and looked at me. I felt slightly self-conscious but surprisingly pretty comfortable with it.
Went to an average club yesterday night and met three girls I knew from other nights out. They invited me to sit with them at their table, so I thought why not.
I felt very content and felt like I didn't need to prove anything. I socialized with the girls a bit. I talked with the one girl I knew very little who was sitting besides me.
She's ok hot but I wasn't feeling anything about it. I asked her what she likes to do for fun and she replied, "going out" and I said, "yeah.. lots of people like to do that.. is there anything else than going out?" she thought about it for a while and then said, "honestly, there's nothing. I'm just studying, working, going out"
me: "and you are happy with that?"
her:"yes"
Then we talked about reading, what kind of books. After I told her about this interesting new book I was reading she's like, "excuse me" turned and talked with one of the other girls and said, "he's boring" her friend agreed but only because her friend wants me for herself (she's a really jealous type).
Anyways, I was just sitting there and did really nothing to make anything happen. The girl that said I was boring went to another table with a guy and told the two other girls to come with her but they stayed. I never took it further than a bit talking and little physicality. I think the girls wanted me to lead, to make something happen...
In the end they went to the guys table for a last drink before leaving. I sat there by myself, not feeling very bad but definitely not feeling very good about my inaction and not knowing what I wanted...
The whole situation was not in my favor and I took myself too seriously because of thinking like I had to act like a 10 and were probably subconsciously afraid to put myself in a situation where I could be rejected.
Stage 4 - Day 2,
Had a dream where I was fully naked, stood like a model for others to see. The girls I met yesterday was there and looked at me. I felt slightly self-conscious but surprisingly pretty comfortable with it.
1. Do whatever you want.. risk whatever your gut tells you because.. you know you have good intentions.
2. Pressure forms the man.
3. Clarity gives space for better decisions.
