Sometimes I think because I've lived so long with negativity and feelings of depression I see it as normal behavior for me. So I might slip up one day and then gradually fall back into it without really realizing it.
But lately I've been using EFT more on myself. I like it because it's not just my belief in it that makes it work. And that's important because if I'm at a low point I can't muster up the strength to be overly positive about something. My only issue is I'll run into resistance to using this when I feel really bad. I've yet to really get to the root of why I feel that way. If it's because I subconsciously hold onto it or if it feels like too much effort and I'm drained just thinking about confronting all those feelings. Either way it works and I'm thankful for it.
I've definitely noticed that sometimes this sub can have me waking up in a really bad mood. Like I'll feel the weight of everything that was dragged up and need to let it go. I think my problem is that I start mixing those emotions in with my current situation and suddenly what was supposed to be released has been given new meaning so it tends to stick around.
And something that struck me was the belief that life has to be difficult or anything has to be difficult. Admittedly there is a certain satisfaction with overcoming an obstacle or something really difficult. But it seems like a lot of that is the ego. We want others to see how hard we worked at something and how strong we were or dedicated in the face of failure. People learn the lesson that things are difficult and the whole blood sweat and tears thing, it gets passed along and anything to the contrary is viewed as lucky or that the person never really knew the value of hard work.
Beliefs such as these, have a basis in reality, but at the same time I wonder is it really necessary? It's like if you don't struggle then somehow you are looked upon as a person missing some kind of virtuous character trait. And I'm not saying that everyone should throw work ethic out the window, you still have to be disciplined. But if everyone could see that at least 50% of the time we make things difficult for ourselves merely by expecting them to be there would be a shift. I'm starting to think that individuals who are really successful understand this. That there is work involved, but they aren't operating from the belief system that every second of the day will be filled with frustration and that failure is always around the corner. They understand their goal and they know they can reach it, they just have to do what they have to do to get there.
The more I start to work on these limiting beliefs, the more I realize that there's so much in our own heads that holds us back. But also that people want to reinforce these beliefs for some strange reason. Even if the proposed change is incredibly positive, it challenges what they know and they don't like that. There's so much pressure around us that can challenge our beliefs, I feel like I've had my beliefs deconstructed and reconstructed on numerous occasions and not always for the better.
But lately I've been using EFT more on myself. I like it because it's not just my belief in it that makes it work. And that's important because if I'm at a low point I can't muster up the strength to be overly positive about something. My only issue is I'll run into resistance to using this when I feel really bad. I've yet to really get to the root of why I feel that way. If it's because I subconsciously hold onto it or if it feels like too much effort and I'm drained just thinking about confronting all those feelings. Either way it works and I'm thankful for it.
I've definitely noticed that sometimes this sub can have me waking up in a really bad mood. Like I'll feel the weight of everything that was dragged up and need to let it go. I think my problem is that I start mixing those emotions in with my current situation and suddenly what was supposed to be released has been given new meaning so it tends to stick around.
And something that struck me was the belief that life has to be difficult or anything has to be difficult. Admittedly there is a certain satisfaction with overcoming an obstacle or something really difficult. But it seems like a lot of that is the ego. We want others to see how hard we worked at something and how strong we were or dedicated in the face of failure. People learn the lesson that things are difficult and the whole blood sweat and tears thing, it gets passed along and anything to the contrary is viewed as lucky or that the person never really knew the value of hard work.
Beliefs such as these, have a basis in reality, but at the same time I wonder is it really necessary? It's like if you don't struggle then somehow you are looked upon as a person missing some kind of virtuous character trait. And I'm not saying that everyone should throw work ethic out the window, you still have to be disciplined. But if everyone could see that at least 50% of the time we make things difficult for ourselves merely by expecting them to be there would be a shift. I'm starting to think that individuals who are really successful understand this. That there is work involved, but they aren't operating from the belief system that every second of the day will be filled with frustration and that failure is always around the corner. They understand their goal and they know they can reach it, they just have to do what they have to do to get there.
The more I start to work on these limiting beliefs, the more I realize that there's so much in our own heads that holds us back. But also that people want to reinforce these beliefs for some strange reason. Even if the proposed change is incredibly positive, it challenges what they know and they don't like that. There's so much pressure around us that can challenge our beliefs, I feel like I've had my beliefs deconstructed and reconstructed on numerous occasions and not always for the better.
