01-05-2013, 09:49 PM
(01-03-2013, 12:56 PM)Shannon Wrote: The simple answer is that they are different in that one is specifically going after fear alone, and one is trying to kill the tangled mess that is a combination of the three. It depends on your situation as to which one is best for you. If you have issues with guilt and shame, fear destruction will be much better by taking on all three at once. If not, fear destruction by itself will be more focused.
I think I brought the wrong one then :S I don't feel much shame or guilt unless it's things I shouldn't do, like stealing or something like that but I hope it doesn't remove that
On the other side, I think like I would do crazy things if my fear was removed 
Stage 2 - Day 8,
I was out by myself again yesterday night, which nothing really happened because I was tired and because of the circumstances.
Earlier tonight I went out again by myself, since long time and I notice things have changed.
The first bar I met a lot of friends and we had a great time. I lost a cute girl because I didn't do anything with it.
Me and a buddy, who also loves going out often went to another bar. I met a lot of bitchy women.. "go away" (and she used her foot to push me away from the chair I took beside her), "we don't want you here", "please go, me and my friends are talking", "what are you doing here?"
Not sure if it was my approach.. but I felt totally detached from most of them and I even went back to some of them, like.. why?? there are also great guys out there.
I knew these women have had a lot of bad experiences with guys hitting on them but I was sincerely why?? I was like.. I'm me! I saw you girls, why are you like that?
That was a great change because I wasn't emotionally disturbed by it and just went on. Cool stuff.
Later we went to another place and there was some bitchy women again. The first ones I went over to. Whatever.
So I was just going around and see where my light was invited.
For example I went to a "U" table with a group of 6 girls and I stood there and wanted to say something but I only got one of the girls at a times attention for 2 seconds or so. So I dropped it and went on.
I was feeling like a newbie to this proactive night-game. I don't really get it. Girls in groups are totally alert if a guy comes!
So I went outside with my friend and chilled for a bit. My friend was talking to a girl behind me and then suddenly I get eye-contact with a girl and her friend coming over and we begin to talk.
Next thing I know I'm sitting with a cute girl who was totally different from all the girls I had met tonight. She was open, talkative, cute and she didn't seem needy.
We went upstairs with her friends and danced even though I didn't feel like it so I told her, "I don't feel like dancing.. I just wanna with be you".
We went somewhere private. Exchanged numbers before I left.
The big change I've noticed is that even though I've got so many bitchy responses, I was still collected, not judging and non-needy, which is pretty damn cool
1. Do whatever you want.. risk whatever your gut tells you because.. you know you have good intentions.
2. Pressure forms the man.
3. Clarity gives space for better decisions.
