12-14-2012, 12:10 PM
LM, what you describe is a textbook case of the inexperienced opening, up, letting themselves have a result, getting slapped down because of inexperience, and then reacting with fear and possibly shame, and closing off.
It's not uncommon. And it's part of everyone's journey to success to get slapped down sometimes. No matter who you are or what you do. There's always going to be a slap-down when you are too far off the path. And without a lot of experience in this direction, it's easy to not know where the path is.
But that smackdown isn't failure. It's a learning experience. You are learning, okay, that didn't work. Now you have to figure out what part of it didn't work, and keep what did. Fear and closing off isn't useful, and it won't stick around: the program will take care of that.
Here's a little bit of advice from someone who has suffered more than his share of smackdowns in life.
Failure only exists as failure, if you stop trying to succeed. Success is inevitable to those who refuse to give up.
So spend some time learning what you did right to get those results and what you did wrong, an then get back on your horse and ride out. And no matter how many times you get smacked down, never stop getting back on that horse and riding out. Because every time you get smacked down, you learn something valuable and important, and if you refuse to make the same mistake twice, each smackdown will turn into a gift in the end, when you look back and see that they weren't really smackdowns at all, but rungs on the ladder to success.
It's not uncommon. And it's part of everyone's journey to success to get slapped down sometimes. No matter who you are or what you do. There's always going to be a slap-down when you are too far off the path. And without a lot of experience in this direction, it's easy to not know where the path is.
But that smackdown isn't failure. It's a learning experience. You are learning, okay, that didn't work. Now you have to figure out what part of it didn't work, and keep what did. Fear and closing off isn't useful, and it won't stick around: the program will take care of that.
Here's a little bit of advice from someone who has suffered more than his share of smackdowns in life.
Failure only exists as failure, if you stop trying to succeed. Success is inevitable to those who refuse to give up.
So spend some time learning what you did right to get those results and what you did wrong, an then get back on your horse and ride out. And no matter how many times you get smacked down, never stop getting back on that horse and riding out. Because every time you get smacked down, you learn something valuable and important, and if you refuse to make the same mistake twice, each smackdown will turn into a gift in the end, when you look back and see that they weren't really smackdowns at all, but rungs on the ladder to success.
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The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
The scientist has a question to find an answer for. The pseudo-scientist has an answer to find a question for. ~ "Failure is the path of least persistence." - Chinese Fortune Cookie ~ Logic left. Emotion right. But thinking, straight ahead. ~ Sperate supra omnia in valorem. (The value of trust is above all else.) ~ Meowsomeness!
