Path to Greatness - Journal

[Javier Gerardo]

The shame comes from your belief that you have to judge your own progress by that of others. That is not true. Your progress is only judgeable by comparing it to your own past progress. What others do is not an accurate way to judge your own situation because others are not you. Let go of the belief that you have to do what others are doing, and allow yourself to be your own man, and move at your own pace.

I see your point Shannon. I always seem to be that guy that keeps on comparing myself to other people. This happening for some time now and only recently around 6 months ago when this "insecurity" of mine has been diminishing. Now I feel that my subconscious and negative insecure self is fighting back with everything it got just to keep alive. I know I am improving and there are days wherein I am entirely accepting and secure of myself. But when I'm back up against a wall and slightly felt down, just like what happened last weekend, my former self keeps on coming back to say how inadequate I am compared to others.

Once upon a time there was a man who stepped on a thorn, which became embedded deep in his foot. He knew it would be painful to pull out, so he did not. Eventually, it became infected, and the infection caused his foot to swell and become very sensitive and sore. Whenever he touched the thorn to pull it out, it hurt so bad he didn't dare. As the infection got worse, so did the pain. Eventually the infection became life threatening and the pain was absolutely unbearable. He had to have the thorn removed by a doctor, who charged him so much he went bankrupt after having a heart attack and dying. After he died and went bankrupt, his family had to pay his medical bill and his burial costs, which meant they couldn't afford to buy food, and they all died of starvation. When this happened, they couldn't afford to be buried, so their corpses started a horrible plague which infected and killed everyone on earth. And then the earth exploded.

Now, if that man had simply faced the fact that the thorn would hurt coming out, but not as much as it would hurt staying in, he would still be alive, and so would everyone on earth, and the earth wouldn't have exploded.

While I am being a little silly here because I'm tired, the moral here is that doing the wrong thing because it's easier than fixing it, is only going to make fixing it harder, more painful and more costly later on.

So you can keep lying, and stay single forever... or you can be honest, own the truth, and eventually get a girl.

Your choice. But people who don't take my advice invariably live to regret it. I suggest you consider carefully how to proceed.

Thanks for sharing that story man. Yeah it is silly but it makes a great point that I should very well keep in mind. I believe that what your subs and advice to us are for the long term.
I do not want to lie anymore. From now on I would do my very best to be an honest guy. This will be no easy feat as I tried this also in the past few months too and failed.
I remember Cory Skyy also showed this by saying that he admits to women that he is a badboy who dates other women at the same time. As such he looks genuine and real to other people especially to women. In our time where authentic people are lacking, people who are indeed honest and true to themselves are really attractive. It shows high self esteem and confidence which I want to attain from using your program.
I should have thought always that honesty and integrity are much more important than preselection and what others think of myself.

Another thing though man. I've had friends before whom I dropped out of my social life because they seem to be the guys who seem to prevent me to becoming the man I want to be. I don't want to do that again especially due to the fact that some of the friends I left doesn't like me anymore that much. From this, I have discovered that true friends should be accepting of who we are and what we want to become. I can definitely say that I am because I have experienced otherwise.
Now in relation to women, if she end up not liking me for not having much experience with women should I just accept it, move on and find another? This is what usually goes on in my mind whenever I am already having a connection with a girl. I kind of feel she'll leave whenever I will say the truth. Then my neediness kicks in. I know that as an Alpha Male I should be the prize and stop giving a f*ck what women think. But I keep on repeating the same mistakes.
In the end I always know what I should do but I make mistakes and beat myself up for doing such. I feel that I'm like a drug addict. Instead of being addicted of drugs, I'm addicted to self-defeating, failing myself, being insecure, having lots of fears etc.