4Kingdoms - Optimal Self Confidence 6g

[4Kingdoms]

I'm reading
Atomic Attraction: The Psychology of Attraction
Author: Christopher Canwell

Friday, 2.21.2025 | Day 16 - Ultrasonic Format

I noticed my female neighbor was outside. I walked up and said...
Me:  Did you have lunch?
Her: Not yet, what did you have in mind?
Me: Seafood or Steak. You fly, I'll buy.
Her: Thanks, but I'm going to tint my sliding glass doors.
Me: Okay, let me know when is a good time. You fly, I'll buy.

Before reading the book, I would have said:
Me: You can tint another day, let's go out, it's a beautiful day.
(That never worked - too needy - and the woman never went out with me)

I never had a problem asking women out.  
My problem was being too polite, coming across as needy, or smothering her.

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Saturday, 2.22.2025 | Day 17 - Ultrasonic Format

Next Day:
I open my front door and see a yellow post-it note on my locked gate.

Hi 4Kingdoms,
I can join you for lunch today or whenever is good for you.
I'll drive.

It was 8 am so I knocked on her door and asked if 11 am was good.

We left promptly at 11 am, she drove and normally she's very chatty, the ride to the Steak restaurant was quiet.
She's new to the area, so I navigated the route to the restaurant. 
After we were seated, I kept eye contact and asked open-ended questions.
She quickly became comfortable. It felt like I was having lunch with an old friend.
Because she drove, I paid for lunch.

I never asked her about her dating or love life. She told me the names of male neighbors who exchanged phone numbers with her, but she didn't feel comfortable with them after getting to know them.  She said, "They texted too much and got annoyed when she didn't text back."

When we got to her home and exited the car. 
Me: Thank you, I enjoyed your company. See you next month.  
(I got the impression she wanted to hug me, but I kept walking to my home)
Her: lol, see you next month?? 
(of course, I'll see her before that, we live across from each other)
Me: Yep, next month we try a different place.
Her: Ok, see you next month (still laughing aloud)

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I became aware of something on Friday, 2.21.2025 | Day 16 - Ultrasonic Format
When driving in traffic or at a long RED light, ZERO Anxiety!!  
Even as a passenger, I got anxious sitting in traffic or waiting for the light to change.

This is huge!! After being involved in 3 car accidents over my lifetime, my anxiety level has risen over time.  
Zero anxiety while driving is freeing and I'm relaxed as I drive to my destination.
I'm enjoying the scenery as a passenger instead of closing my eyes.

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My 80 y/o Mom has been listening to Optimal Self Confidence 6G for 20 days.
She is polite but her attitude of worrying about what others think - GONE!!
Now, she tells it like it is and doesn't mind if they disagree or make them unhappy.