Rocks x4a-1000 Journal

[Diablojack00]

Thanks. I'll disconnect as best I can.

The reason the twins are always my servers is cus me and my mom kept getting servers that took our order and we'd never see them again.

The twins were always sweeping or something so we'd ask them.  

So mom suggested requesting one of them.

After a few times requesting, the one twin started greeting me when she saw me.

I had asked for a movie date cus I didn't know how else to see her outside of her work.

With the server I'd like a relationship most likely, but if raw sexual energy won't do the trick then I'm lost. 

I asked for a movie date cus I didn't know how else to see her outside of her work.

I had planned to take a week or two break from the restaurant and see how she reacts seeing me again when I do go back.

Either way I'll definitely disconnect.

Like I said... disconnect any emotional ties, and make interacting with them a fun social game for yourself to enjoy.  If you can pull that off, then it'll be fun for you, fun for them, and attraction may increase towards you because you're not being desperate and because you're a fun guy.

The key to getting servers to transition to out of work interaction is to build a bond with them while they're working until they are comfortable taking it outside work.  The kind of bond necessary depends on a variety of factors, including her personality, your personality and whether you're involved or not.  I have managed to get a number of servers to transition to outside work, but not all of them are females I'd be interested in going after in any way.  Some are too old, some are not my type, and some are just batchit crazy.  In all cases, I approach them as friends, and sometimes we hang out together at their house (with my girlfriend or not).  Have dinner, go out to restaurants and eat, have them pet sit for me, etc.

In my case, I have a woman and I make no effort to hide that fact.  If I wanted to have sex with a server, I could make it happen, but it's not going to happen because I value my current relationship too much for that.  But the key is to build a rapport, be fun and someone she looks forward to seeing, and don't get awkward, needy, creepy, etc.

You mentioned your mom accompanies you on these outings.  How old are you, and how old are these servers you're interested in?  Having mom around can make things much harder, depending on your age (and theirs).

I agree with what you said. I do joke with them and treat them well. They do the same with me. 

I've just never entertained dating my server at a restaurant till now.

I am 42 and I take my mom to eat with me only sometimes. 

Mom goes with me maybe 3 times a month. The rest of the time it's just me.

The girls ask how mom is when she's not with me.

The servers are twins and they are 21. Morgan is the one I asked to a movie. Maddy is my server sometimes but both girls will come talk to me quite a bit.

Maddy has a boyfriend of 4 years. Morgan mention Her sister has a boyfriend randomly a lot.

Morgan also talks about hanging with her brother a lot. She'll tell me she was shopping etc but is quick to say she was with her brother.

I'm not sure what's in x4a 1000 but since being on it literally make me feel like The Nature boy Ric Flair acted.

Come ride space mountain one time ...

I do know that these twins are wonderful people in general and treating them like humans that I value is about the only way I know to be towards them.

I think I'm on the right track. I've just not been back to the restaurant to eat since Valentine's day but when I did leave after checking out Morgan’s bracelet. I wished them Happy Valentine's day and they said the same...

I think Morgan said I was awesome, then Happy Valentine's day. 

Maybe those details matter?