03-12-2023, 06:46 AM
Thanks, AmpersndThe2nd, for your journal and for being so open and honest! I can very much relate to your story, and even though I had quite a lot of women in my life I had sex with, I always thought I would deserve better. I had a couple of 8-9-10's, but I always thought and still think, due to what I bring to the table, both physically, mentally, and spiritually, I deserved much more of the top tier. And, just like you, out of frustration not getting the ones you think you deserve, I tend to resort to RP rage.
The latest example in this respect is my current Tinder experience, While receiving quite a number of matches with 8-9-10's, I would usually get one response at max, often none, that being me contacting them, and even with good text game. So, while getting 1-tier matches isn't a problem for me, it doesn't go anywhere near a date, due to a lack of dialogue and responsiveness. Now that might have other reasons besides my personal ones, like them getting hammered with messages by a ton of dudes she had matches with as well, or ultra-short attention span, or be it she's there only for the attention without wanting to take things any further, or whatever. But regardless, as Shannon stated, I really have to be careful not to build up my resentment against those chicks, blaming them for not even being capable of having a simple conversation (I remember 5-10 years ago, you could easily get away with being cocky and you still got a dialogue that led to something, I don't do this anymore though, the Tinder game today is a totally different one in general, even though it varies from country to country).
Like you, I didn't get much out of DMSI either. I have the feeling that I constantly have to initiate and push things forward. I am an extroverted and social guy and easily strike up funny and interesting conversations with peeps, independent of their gender. But my wounded feelings about not getting enough from the women I desire most might block me from properly executing.
Thanks, Shannon, as well for shedding some light on how to go about it!
The latest example in this respect is my current Tinder experience, While receiving quite a number of matches with 8-9-10's, I would usually get one response at max, often none, that being me contacting them, and even with good text game. So, while getting 1-tier matches isn't a problem for me, it doesn't go anywhere near a date, due to a lack of dialogue and responsiveness. Now that might have other reasons besides my personal ones, like them getting hammered with messages by a ton of dudes she had matches with as well, or ultra-short attention span, or be it she's there only for the attention without wanting to take things any further, or whatever. But regardless, as Shannon stated, I really have to be careful not to build up my resentment against those chicks, blaming them for not even being capable of having a simple conversation (I remember 5-10 years ago, you could easily get away with being cocky and you still got a dialogue that led to something, I don't do this anymore though, the Tinder game today is a totally different one in general, even though it varies from country to country).
Like you, I didn't get much out of DMSI either. I have the feeling that I constantly have to initiate and push things forward. I am an extroverted and social guy and easily strike up funny and interesting conversations with peeps, independent of their gender. But my wounded feelings about not getting enough from the women I desire most might block me from properly executing.
Thanks, Shannon, as well for shedding some light on how to go about it!
