Shannon's Journal Discussion Thread, Vol. 5

[GreekGod22]

Shannon, I have a question regarding jealousy and what kind of goal is achievable in this regard in not becoming affected by it.

Let say you have a girlfriend, you go out partying and you see some other guy being attracted to your girl, and making moves on her, and she also playing along with it.

A "normal" guy would probably mark his boundary against the guy and tell him to back off or get upset with his girl. But I'm wondering if there is a way to rise above this completely? Let say you were so comfortable in yourself that you saw this as a good opportunity for your girl to have a good experience and tell her to invite the guy over to your place and let the situation play out.

Is this something that could be possible to achieve with say OF and AM? It's an ambitious, but also kind of a self-less goal to be so self-sufficient that you could allow your partner to enjoy their sexuality freely even if you are in a relationship.

If she is your “oficial” girlfriend and she is reciprocating flirting from other men, sorry to say: she’s for the streets.
It means she doesn’t respect you. A woman can’t love you if she doesn’t respect you.
That being said, never ever appear jealous in front of your woman. Control yourself, even if you feel justified.

If you were to feel irrational jealousy or fear of losing your partner, that’s a goal for OFv3 or E5 maybe(fear of abandonment & of being unloved).