Shannon's Journal Discussion Thread, Vol. 5

[Shannon]

Shannon, I need to ask you something about love that I hope you can help me shed some light upon. I know this girl who I have been in love with sinse high-school, but at the time I was to afraid to make a move and when I did things didn't work out, possibly due to me not being mature enough. High school was 10 years ago and  it was 5 years we last met, but we met again today and even though I though I forgot the feelings I have for her, I know they have lingered on and was rescindled today. I'm more in control of my emotions, and can keep my cool around her in a new way, but still I sense that there is something there. Something in between us that I just know that it's there and I know we would have a great chance at creating something beautiful together. I now know that the only way to attract someone is to work on yourself and stay open to whatever shows up, rather than being obsessed with things as I was in the past. However, I don't know how to look at this situation. What is it so deeply inside of me that have this unwavering attraction toward everything about her and how should I deal with it? She lives in another city and have a boyfriend, but I still in some way feel (wishfully or not) that she may feel the same way to.

From my point of view, this sort of thing can result from unresolved karma.  It does not mean she will necessarily feel the same, but mirror souls frequently find each other unbelievably attractive, and that will either remain until they play out that relationship and conclude it, or it will show up once they are supposed to start such a relationship.

If she does not feel the same, then it is unlikely she is a mirror soul.  

There are of course other possible explanations.  I don't know enough to say beyond this.

Thank you for introducing me to the topic, I was not familiar of twin flames. I got the understanding the even one of the souls may realize they are, but the other one can be "locked in" to their current life and be afraid of change or not even spiritually aware enough to understand the underlying attraction or willing to acknowledge it. Then the other one can just as you say wait and see, and perhaps help the other one to develop spiritually by offering supporting nudges and unconditional love, not expecting anything to happen but trusting it will, at some point. However I'm not fully sure of how karmic debt work in relation to this, from what I read karmic debt is something else, where you are attracted to one person to make "remedy" for bad decisions in a previous life?

I said nothing about Twin Flames.  Those are so rare to encounter each other in a given lifetime that you may as well just presume they don't exist.  That is why I said Mirror Souls.  Those are not really actually soul mates, but their particular karmic bond holds them in attraction to each other in ways that is easy to mistake for that case.  

The subject of karma is a complex one, and most sources do not understand it well enough to try to explain it.  So don't be surprised if it takes you a lot of time to research it well enough to understand it well enough to really get the gist of what it is.  

Mirror Souls are karmically bound to be attracted to each other for the purpose of doing what Mirror Souls do: showing one another their weaknesses and flaws.  The goal is not an easy one, so to get these two together in any meaningful way the attraction has to be off the charts.  This holds them together in a relationship that starts off with bliss and ends up in one of two outcomes.  98% of the time, one party will see the flaws and work to improve themselves, eventually outgrowing the other party who is not willing to do the same, and then leaving to find someone at their current level.  

1% of the time, neither is willing to do the work to grow past the flaws their mirror soul has or shows them about themselves, so they live in misery together, hating each other and life after a while.  

1% of the time, both realize what is going on, and the work together to grow together, steadily dealing with and growing from their flaws and doing so at a relatively even pace so they are constantly happy together, working together, growing and improving as they enjoy the process (challenging through it is) and the attraction that brought them together in the first place.

Information on Mirror Souls is very scarce compared to "information" on Twin Flames, because everyone wants the icing on the cake, and nobody wants the ugly truth.  I would estimate that for every million (and it might be a much higher number) Mirror Soul relationships you encounter, you *might* encounter a real Twin Flame.  So just forget about Twin Flames.  If that person is your Twin Flame, you'll end up in a life locked relationship if it's supposed to happen.  Most times, Twin Flames don't (aren't allowed to) recognize each other if they ever encounter one another, and they almost never encounter each other in a life where they're not supposed to bond in a significant relationship because they are so distracting to one another's reason for being here in the first place otherwise.

If there is some sort of soul bond, bet your money it's a Mirror Soul bond, and be ready - if you get together - to have this person show you your flaws and weaknesses.  And get ready to hit the ground running, because in one of these relationships there are only those three options: You both try to hide from the growth and remain miserable; one of you grows while the other hides and then ends the relationship after they outgrow the stagnant one; or they both grow together, and that can indeed resemble a soul mate relationship.  But for every real Twin Flame relationship there are thousands that will be mistaken for one because the mirror souls chose to grow together, and millions that will be mistaken for one because the people involved don't really understand what a Twin Flame is, or what the relationship is like.

Sad but true.  You're almost never here to have fun.  You're almost always here to learn something.  And most people are only willing to learn the hard way, through pain and discomfort.

Interesting. Thanks for the info. 

However, the odds to find someone to grow with through life seems very low. First you need to find someone who is a "mirror soul" to you, and then you only have a 1% chance of finding someone who will be able to grow at the same pace as yourself. Is there anything you can do to increase your chances, beside keeping on working on yourself and growing, to find a partner that will keep grow along you?

You're assuming that a mirror soul is the only way to find someone to grow with in life.  Karmic and soul mate relationships are usually the exception, not the norm.  You may be karmically "destined" to meet some of the people you have a relationship with, and maybe even "destined" to have a relationship with some people.  But usually the choice is yours.  Mirror souls are going to be more common for people who have a high burn rate and less common for those who have a moderate or low burn rate.  Burn rate being how fast you're "burning karma" in this life.


You don't need to worry about finding mirror souls and soul mates.  If the time is right, you will not be able to get away from the circumstances that bring you together.

Most relationships are just regular relationships.  They happen if and when you make them happen.  They go the way the people involved make them go.  It's your choice. Not every relationship by far is all about karma.